Confused about a person

[Slushie]

Sounds like a sorta covert narcissistic type to me.

 

[Teasel]

Just want to congratulate you @saraemerald at getting this person out of your life.

I had a 15 year friendship with someone like this and I am so happy she' not in my life any more.

Well wishes to you going forward, as Ladee says you will have learned some valuable lessons on what kind of people to avoid in the future.

 

[saraemerald]

Because she needed you to be seen as the poor lucky person that she was rescuing and when you g...

Exactly that. But I wanted revenge so bad for what she did to me. I used to love people and be devoted to volunteering and helping people out of a loving heart and she saw and ruined it. It has hurt me sooo much. Plus leaving that cult on top of it, has messed wit my head and now I feel more hateful and angry than loving like I was before. It hurts so much.

 

[saraemerald]

Exactly that. But I wanted revenge so bad for what she did to me. I used to love people and be devo...

This woman turned so many people against me. And what baffles me is why I let HER get to me after I had already risen above abuse from both my parents and other crazy stuff from other dysfunctional people in my life. I had myself in a f#!king cacoon to protect myself from all the crazies in that messed up organization/ cult and then somehow I cracked

 

[Juls33]

I had someone come into my life and be a friend for me when I was a teenager. She was a little over...

This person sounds like a complete NARCISSIST! These are the worst kinds of people to be around if you already have PTSD.

 

[Juls33]

This woman turned so many people against me. And what baffles me is why I let HER get to me after I...

Wow i can relate to your story so much... I have had to drill it in my head to not feed into the cult narcissistic personalities and just move on with my life. The thing about narcissists is that anything you do they will turn it against you. Your best bet is to move on with your life and focus on the people you have in your corner. Narcissists LOVE drama and there is no reasoning with them.

 

[Deleted member 46752]

"Why would cause someone like her to do that to me?" Because their emotional vampires sounds like a classic case of narc abuse...I'm truly sorry this sick individual left their "narcissistic fleas" on you as in the case, don't lose hope and remember it's not you. also don't seek resolution for your own sake I say that. Meanwhile sending good vibes and well wishes

 

[Deleted member 46752]

I wanted revenge so bad for what she did to me. I used to love people and be devoted to volunteering and helping people out of a loving heart and she saw and ruined it. It has hurt me sooo much. Plus leaving that cult on top of it, has messed wit my head and now I feel more hateful and angry than loving like I was before. It hurts so much.

This is a common effect of narcissist abuse. Where the abuser metaphorically infects the empathetic subject. This is a normal response given the toxicity of this person, don't beat yourself up and try and shame yourself, recognize that this "person" is just a ghost and they don't own you and you don't owe them anything