Well, my friend finally gave me the boot. Out of nowhere, he told me he could no longer talk to me the way he did because he now has a girlfriend. I was hurt and confused. I thought we had an understanding, but I guess, according to him, it's my fault because I assumed. Wow! He was cold about it too.
To give you a background, we met back in February. He started talking about doing the family thing with me. Things got hectic because his female cousin started bringing problems into the family , then 2 of his cousins' wives cheated, then his uncle died.
Right before he left to take care of his uncle's funeral, he received an anonymous text which was basically from my ex saying I had a miscarriage. The message freaked him out saying that was a total red flag because I didn't tell him. I told him we were still getting to know each other and that was a very sensitive issue for me to disclose immediately, especially since I was the one mainly initiating contact, and I wanted to know exactly where we were headed first.
Anyways, he came back from his uncle's funeral. He apologized for neglecting me. I went over to his house, then we got intimate. After that, he shut down on me, and put the blame on me. I tried to understand.
In July, we saw each other, then we spoke on the phone. He told me everything he is doing is for "us." He shut down again after that. In August, he was good communicating with me. He told me he loves me 3x. Then he shut down again. In September, he accused me of getting back with my ex after he found out I had training with him, and I was also dating other guys from work. He kept telling me he didn't have any right to question me, and what could he do when the other guy I was supposedly seeing is a supervisor and he isn't. He was so frustrated that he told me he went out twice with another girl because he thought I was back with my ex.
In October, we hung out and talked about the future too, but I think he had a panic attack and had to go home. He shut down once again. Two weeks ago, he was telling me he will be moving to Colorado because he is tired of work here and nothing is holding him back.
The night before Thanksgiving he told me I need to get better because I'm sick then we would hang out. After Thanksgiving, we talked and he said I didn't even remember him on Thanksgiving and I told him I sent him a text and called him at work. I read my text to him, and we both thanked each other for having each other. We ended on a good note. 4 days later, he told me he could no longer talk to me because he now has a girlfriend. Ouch!
PTSD or just a jerk?
To give you a background, we met back in February. He started talking about doing the family thing with me. Things got hectic because his female cousin started bringing problems into the family , then 2 of his cousins' wives cheated, then his uncle died.
Right before he left to take care of his uncle's funeral, he received an anonymous text which was basically from my ex saying I had a miscarriage. The message freaked him out saying that was a total red flag because I didn't tell him. I told him we were still getting to know each other and that was a very sensitive issue for me to disclose immediately, especially since I was the one mainly initiating contact, and I wanted to know exactly where we were headed first.
Anyways, he came back from his uncle's funeral. He apologized for neglecting me. I went over to his house, then we got intimate. After that, he shut down on me, and put the blame on me. I tried to understand.
In July, we saw each other, then we spoke on the phone. He told me everything he is doing is for "us." He shut down again after that. In August, he was good communicating with me. He told me he loves me 3x. Then he shut down again. In September, he accused me of getting back with my ex after he found out I had training with him, and I was also dating other guys from work. He kept telling me he didn't have any right to question me, and what could he do when the other guy I was supposedly seeing is a supervisor and he isn't. He was so frustrated that he told me he went out twice with another girl because he thought I was back with my ex.
In October, we hung out and talked about the future too, but I think he had a panic attack and had to go home. He shut down once again. Two weeks ago, he was telling me he will be moving to Colorado because he is tired of work here and nothing is holding him back.
The night before Thanksgiving he told me I need to get better because I'm sick then we would hang out. After Thanksgiving, we talked and he said I didn't even remember him on Thanksgiving and I told him I sent him a text and called him at work. I read my text to him, and we both thanked each other for having each other. We ended on a good note. 4 days later, he told me he could no longer talk to me because he now has a girlfriend. Ouch!
PTSD or just a jerk?
