So I get confused by people's responses sometimes and I need help with this one, please..
I've had some things happen at my current job that have understandably made me feel attacked. I didn't recognize it as attack or abusive behavior until my T pointed it out that it was. I was written up for a faulty machine error and the effects of it, even though this was a new machine and within an hour of operating it I had to have a tech come out and fix a part that was faulty from the factory. A week or so after that, I was embarrassingly accused of throwing another employee into an email discussion, as though I were throwing her under the bus or something, when I made no mention of her in this email discussion nor did I add her to this email chain... someone else in the discussion did. I will also add that this employee she was defending has done nothing but made fun of me openly and been really catty to me in the 7 months I've been there. My boss acts afraid of her on some level... intimidated or something, not quite sure.
Anyway. When my boss accused me in front of everyone of throwing this person into a discussion, I got really upset. I firmly defended myself and my character and she did end up apologizing to me. I cried in front of everyone it was super embarassing.
Another thing that has really made me want to find another job is a situation a month or two ago where I was overwhelmed by several projects. My boss said to me in her office "no problem. No worries we are a team! I will pull a few people to help you out and even make calls myself. We will get it done!". I was so happy. I sent an email to this other person involved in the project and copied my boss, outling how we could best get it done in a certain time frame. Literally 15 minutes after she told me all this team work stuff, She comes out and says I'm a whispered voice "I never said that". I was like... what? Now... I'm an honest person and didn't realize she was baiting me to play along. I said "yes you did." She said "no i didn't when did i say That?" I said, "like minutes ago in your office!" She goes "I'm not going to pull THESE GIRLS off of THEIR jobs to help you with this!!" She said it loud and really show offy like she was defending them from the idea they were expected to be helpful or something. I said "who ever asked you to??". It was just really bizarre. But I tell you this because I feel she wrote me up about the machine in retaliation for this situation.
I keep to myself and never mentioned this incident to her or anyone else... it spoke for itself and gossip isn't my style. When she wrote me up about the machine, she randomly got really serious and said to me "look. I'm an honest person". And i knew it was to punish me for that situation where SHE lied and got showed out, because that "im an honest person" statement had no flow or purpose with what we were talking about at my write up.
So I was so angry about these situations and the toxic, unprofessional catty environment that I actively sought other employment-- and found a job at a church where I can develop my spirituality. I am so excited! I turned in my one weeks resignation letter and did not say anything negative. I apologized for only giving one weeks notice (but honestly didnt give a damn... so happy to leave!). Throughout the time we sat down about it she kept saying "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". But I don't know what shes sorry about. She also said she's happy for me and realizes I have to do it for myself.
Why would an employer apologize to someone who is essentially quitting with only one weeks notice? I just don't get it. Is she feeling guilty? I know I shouldn't care but am feeling baffled. I didn't know what to expect for her reaction but it was very apologetic.
Thanks for reading
I've had some things happen at my current job that have understandably made me feel attacked. I didn't recognize it as attack or abusive behavior until my T pointed it out that it was. I was written up for a faulty machine error and the effects of it, even though this was a new machine and within an hour of operating it I had to have a tech come out and fix a part that was faulty from the factory. A week or so after that, I was embarrassingly accused of throwing another employee into an email discussion, as though I were throwing her under the bus or something, when I made no mention of her in this email discussion nor did I add her to this email chain... someone else in the discussion did. I will also add that this employee she was defending has done nothing but made fun of me openly and been really catty to me in the 7 months I've been there. My boss acts afraid of her on some level... intimidated or something, not quite sure.
Anyway. When my boss accused me in front of everyone of throwing this person into a discussion, I got really upset. I firmly defended myself and my character and she did end up apologizing to me. I cried in front of everyone it was super embarassing.
Another thing that has really made me want to find another job is a situation a month or two ago where I was overwhelmed by several projects. My boss said to me in her office "no problem. No worries we are a team! I will pull a few people to help you out and even make calls myself. We will get it done!". I was so happy. I sent an email to this other person involved in the project and copied my boss, outling how we could best get it done in a certain time frame. Literally 15 minutes after she told me all this team work stuff, She comes out and says I'm a whispered voice "I never said that". I was like... what? Now... I'm an honest person and didn't realize she was baiting me to play along. I said "yes you did." She said "no i didn't when did i say That?" I said, "like minutes ago in your office!" She goes "I'm not going to pull THESE GIRLS off of THEIR jobs to help you with this!!" She said it loud and really show offy like she was defending them from the idea they were expected to be helpful or something. I said "who ever asked you to??". It was just really bizarre. But I tell you this because I feel she wrote me up about the machine in retaliation for this situation.
I keep to myself and never mentioned this incident to her or anyone else... it spoke for itself and gossip isn't my style. When she wrote me up about the machine, she randomly got really serious and said to me "look. I'm an honest person". And i knew it was to punish me for that situation where SHE lied and got showed out, because that "im an honest person" statement had no flow or purpose with what we were talking about at my write up.
So I was so angry about these situations and the toxic, unprofessional catty environment that I actively sought other employment-- and found a job at a church where I can develop my spirituality. I am so excited! I turned in my one weeks resignation letter and did not say anything negative. I apologized for only giving one weeks notice (but honestly didnt give a damn... so happy to leave!). Throughout the time we sat down about it she kept saying "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". But I don't know what shes sorry about. She also said she's happy for me and realizes I have to do it for myself.
Why would an employer apologize to someone who is essentially quitting with only one weeks notice? I just don't get it. Is she feeling guilty? I know I shouldn't care but am feeling baffled. I didn't know what to expect for her reaction but it was very apologetic.
Thanks for reading
