Confused New Carer

[Deleted member 5760]

forcesunified :

Nicolette is right. Which part of 'no' do you not understand? I'm sorry that I have to get brutally honest with you - but I think you do have a problem. Not only are you going to destroy any hope of a future friendship with this person, but you are also going to start scaring her. And that is not a nice thing to do. I really suggest you begin to work on your own issues and I wish you the best of luck with that.

 

[Nicolette]

I really suggest you begin to work on your own issues and I wish you the best of luck with that.

I agree and truly wish you the best with self work as well.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I think that you need to learn to take NO as NO!!!!

You just don't get it, do you?????

 

[forcesunified]

Alright alright I won't send her one last message. The problem is that I recently told her that I would never walk away from her even if she wasn't responding to me. I thought that was the best thing to do for her. I don't understand ptsd so I was just trying to do my best to help someone I knew with it. I make mistakes but I'm not a stalker that's ridiculous. It kinda stings to give my best effort only to have crap thrown back in my face. Also, I don't like the accusations that I'm still trying to force a relationship on her because I'm considering going into the military so I'll be shipped far away where that's impossible. After being on the board there is no way in hell I would want to be in a relationship with a ptsd sufferer because the people who suffer from it are just people who don't know how to handle stress and typically abuse drugs/alcohol to deal with their problems. I want a real woman who can handle their shit. But I was still trying to be her friend.

 

[intothelight]

Deal with your own issues first. Then worry about a relationship.

ITL

 

[Deleted member 541]

After being on the board there is no way in hell I would want to be in a relationship with a ptsd sufferer because the people who suffer from it are just people who don't know how to handle stress and typically abuse drugs/alcohol to deal with their problems. I want a real woman who can handle their shit. But I was still trying to be her friend.

You wouldn't know what to do with a real woman. There are many things I could say to you right now, but the fear of getting banned for doing so, is something I don't want to risk at this point.

You have NO ****ING IDEA what we go through on a daily basis, how we struggle, how we feel. How dare you come here and judge us, and say that we are drug addicts/alcohol abusers. How dare you imply that we are less that YOU.. Who in the hell or what in the hell set you so ****ing far above us???????

It's pieces of shit that we have to deal with on a daily basis in our lives that make this struggle so much harder. Pieces of shit that can't/won't/don't want to understand out struggles. Pieces of shit that because they can't have what they want, they revert to calling us names, and making us feel less than human.....

We don't need your kind here!!!!!! **** it, if I get banned for speaking my mind, well then it was worth every ****ing word I say.

 

[Jline]

Forcesunified,

You clearly don't get the fact that it is you that has the problem.....You didn't get the responses on this forum you were looking for and so you have become frustrated and defensive. I have read the word "stalking" more than once on this thread....If anybody knows about stalking it's the people on here that have SURVIVED situations beyond what you could ever imagine. Heed of the advice you get on here before you find yourself in trouble and with a possible restraining order against you. We may not be perfect but I guess you are hey! Wake up little snoozie and smell the smellin salts.

 

[anthony]

Alright alright I won't send her one last message. The problem is that I recently told her that I would never walk away from her even if she wasn't responding to me. I thought that was the best thing to do for her. I don't understand ptsd so I was just trying to do my best to help someone I knew with it.

I would say you are working things out for yourself. I agree with your first part of this post, though I do think the last part is a bit harsh, considering you are putting a wrapper on anyone with PTSD, and that's not accurate to what your experience is with one person.