Conquering my shame

[oasis2003]

Well, I have just discovered that what I thought was my shame was one grain of sand on the beach of...

It is so weird when you find out what something is (with me it was and is anger) and realise that you have lots of it to process. I have not even named the emotion shame yet so well done you for getting that far! :)

 

[Deleted member 33052]

It is so weird when you find out what something is (with me it was and is anger) and realise that you hav...

I hope your anger comes from a different place than mine. I have discovered that every negative emotion I have is shame in disguise. Thanks for your encouragement - I really appreciate it!

 

[oasis2003]

Maybe I have not got that far. I have only just released a little anger after being numb. I have such trouble with emotional regulation.Yes I do believe that anger covers up lots of emotions. I have such trouble with identifying shame. My two main emotions are sadness and anger maybe they will eventually diversify into other ones ?!

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't have anger often, but I lack strength, & bravery, & have lots of shame, so I probably cause a lot of anger in others. Anger & disappointment, maybe frustration. That makes a burden.

 

[ladee]

Sorry you have to go deeper than you originally thought. I understand about shame. One of the best books I ever read about shame was Healing the Shame that Binds, John Bradshaw. It's an older book, but very good nonetheless... I learned about Toxic shame.... and how it had become a lot of my identity . So prayers for you Cap'n Mal.... you are so precious to so many.... good outcome Prayers for you from my heart.

 

[Bloomy]

Im also ashamed of being a woman after having thought about where all the grains on the beach comes from. After so much sexual harasment Ive overcomed from when I became teenager in addition to all the other obuse and such I find it hard. I realise I spent my young years covering up in odd clothes. Then I passed the pleasing years. Now Im back to odd clothes again.
I find it so dificult for someone to give me attention as a female. And I project it over tho person in quest and it all becomes really awkward for most part.
Im ashamed of also not being sweet enough. Of being to independent. Of owning my self. And at all live up the rightful female issues.

Its a lovely cocktail mixed with the other grains. Truly a bunch of colorful shameful grains :whistling:

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Im also ashamed of being a woman after having thought about where all the grains on the beach comes from...

Bloomy, if I were into girls, you would be the kind of girl that I would want. Strong girls are cool girls. :)

 

[Bloomy]

@Mal Content oh my - thanks I guess :D