Contact between sessions - Afraid T will drop me, at any moment

wisteria

Confident
So, I think I'm 2 months into my new therapist. Trust is a big struggle for me but I like him overall. But there is always a BUT. It dawned on me today (after our session) that I still fear him rejecting me (I also have issues with rejection). It doesn't help that we don't have a consistent schedule. At one point we had a month of appointments scheduled, but now we are down to 2 future appointments scheduled. Part of me apparently fears that he will drop me at any moment, I think. I don't think that is doing much for the trust. I'm really tempted to email him my concerns rather than waiting until our next appointment, but we never addressed contact between appointments. Obviously I could wait, but it's hard to trust someone who you don't think is going to stick around. Honestly, I'm kinda surprised he hasn't picked up on this issue sooner, but hey, I am a guarded so I'll let it slide. He did ask today if there was anything he could do to make me less anxious about therapy? Should I wait? Should I email him? I just don't know. I don't want to break any boundaries but it does seem relevant, rather than me worrying that he'll drop me.
 

wisteria

Confident
Update! Right off the bat I told my therapist my concerns about him "dropping me," citing my rejection and trust issues. He explained that his old place of employment encouraged NOT having a set schedule so he was 'stuck' in that mindset (my words, not his). He hasn't been at the new location for even a year yet. Anyway, I explained that I don't need a consistent schedule; more that I needed some reassurance that he wasn't going to desert me. He said he could do better than that and give me 6 future appointments, lol. In short, I'm really glad I brought it up and he thanked me for doing so. And yes, I was really tempted not to say anything so I took your advance @KayW and did it right away. Whew!

I couldn't quite bring myself to discuss contact between sessions but hey, something is better than nothing.😉
 

Movingforward10

MyPTSD Pro
Update! Right off the bat I told my therapist my concerns about him "dropping me," citing my rejection and trust issues. He explained that his old place of employment encouraged NOT having a set schedule so he was 'stuck' in that mindset (my words, not his). He hasn't been at the new location for even a year yet. Anyway, I explained that I don't need a consistent schedule; more that I needed some reassurance that he wasn't going to desert me. He said he could do better than that and give me 6 future appointments, lol. In short, I'm really glad I brought it up and he thanked me for doing so. And yes, I was really tempted not to say anything so I took your advance @KayW and did it right away. Whew!

I couldn't quite bring myself to discuss contact between sessions but hey, something is better than nothing.😉
Great! Go you! Hopefully this will help show you that it's perfectly ok to raise your needs with your T and they will respond positively. It's brave to do. And the more we do it, the easier it gets.
 
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