Just putting in a note to follow. My therapist and I find my nature is not to accept with counters to core beliefs. I’d like to take time to read the counter suggestion people are making to themselves to consider. Just not right now 😳
Be a vital member of your team. And be the best you can be.
Counter= if your team is shit, then don't be afraid to find a new one. Life is to short to be constantly f*cked over. It's not narcissistic to be proud of who you are, what you can do and wanting to succeed.
Core Belief: I don't deserve to look the best I can be because...No one sees me AND
I'm a nobody so I'm not worthy enough to bother to take care of me....(no need to check the mirror cause that's disgusting, no need to do self care for teeth, hair, body cause nobody cares enough to even notice).
Counter: I'm enough for me so I shouldn't base my decisions on old-trauma tapes of people that no longer exist in my life- I need to do these things regularly for me so I can feel good about me.
Core Belief: When someone abuses me, through emotional abuse, lies, and intimidation, run and think coward.
Counter: Oh FUCit! Stand up, look them in the eye, and I'll see them in court! Win or lose, I'll respect myself in the morning.
People don’t like me, they think I’m stupid, they think I‘m unworthy of.... they Never get in touch with me..
>>>>>>>>>> Part of me says⌨️: It’s strength to NOT WANT others, the moment you realize that you are alone in this and that no one can make you feel any differently, that only you can... then you have won.
>>>>>Other Part says: Make others realize that you are hurt because of their non-communication, make yourself heard, be angry and cut them off, so that they understand...
Well none of them works... first one: Emotional Mogadishu due to Grief and I cannot keep up that facade..
Second one: Please have a sense of selfdignity!
Here I am with the snippets, trying to replace/place them..
Not yet quite working.. Arghhhh
I‘m going to try the Wim Hof method and bathe in Ice water for ......... minutes