Councelling Home Work

[Deleted member 14359]

I have had to do some writting of my own this week as part of counselling home work. I have big issues with my parents and how they destroyed me slowly and subsequently left me in a position in which I was raped by a stranger. I find talking about my parents painful, humiliating and embarrassing so my counsellor has advised me to write a letter to them and take it into my next session to read out to her. It will then be shredded. I have written my letter, as painful as it was. Going to counselling tomorrow, know it is going to be a tough emotional day and I am somewhat dreading it. I hope it proves worthwhile.

 

[kw19]

I have written letters to people before and read to a therapist. It made me feel slightly better, but still didn't give me the closure I needed. I hope it turns out well for you though. Let us know! :)

 

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KW19
Sorry yours did not give you closure. That is what I am dreading, going through all that pain and getting no reward from it.

Went to councelling yesterday, she did not ask if I had done my home work and I did not mention it - I was in such a mess and just could not go there with the letter too. Even without discussing the letter at counselling my counsellor said I looked like I had done six rounds in the boxing ring.

No counselling next week due to Jubilee celebrations for Queen so I have two weeks to pluck up the courage.:praying:

 

[kw19]

You could post the letter here if you think it would help to share it.

 

[megnut]

I have written letters to people who have wronged me. It did let me get things off my chest, allow me a safe way to express myself. Even though they were never read by the people they were intended for, it did help some.

 

[Nyx]

Even if it doesn't bring you closure, it should bring you relief. Opening up and expressing what hurts means taking a big leap forward with the healing. The way I see it, the only way your effort would have been in vain is if you don't read it to your therapist. Since writing it took such a toll on you, it only goes to show you need to go further.

I know it's hard and painful, I've been there. I have written two letters to my father. The first one telling him why I hate him - that one we burned - and the second one telling him just how he affected my life - this one I intend to send. I dreaded reading them to my T, but I am glad I did. Although they both put me on the roller-coaster, they both helped me. The first brought me closure to a really unhappy childhood and the second helped me see it wasn't my fault and that I deserve to heal.

I wish you lots of courage! You too deserve to heal!

 

[Lucycat]

I have never been asked to write letters, and think I would find it really difficult. I cannot imagine reading it out loud even if I had written one. I have sent many texts and emails to my T simply because I cannot find my voice.

I do hope you find the process constructive - please do let us know.