Courtship and dating in different cultures

[Deleted member 44394]

Yes, I was a member of a church but don't go anymore. It's too small.... it's a dying and kind of place only a few families go to. I've thought about groups but somehow it doesn't happen. I need to make it happen. I've been a member of these things in past and probably should find a church. Do they have much churches in Germany, do a lot of people still go to church? I was under the impression it wasn't that popular anymore all over Europe anymore. Thanks just curious. Yeah I do want to be a part of something... but I need to get my life together first, also.
I do feel spending too much time alone isn't good or healthy; that's a challenge I have to face here. It's hard. I think a sports team would be great. Cameraderie with a bunch of other guys... and friendships. Rugby maybe, but I care about my body too much and brain. And I'm getting older. Volunteering is a great idea... I think what I miss most about Europe is a structure; you have so many options here, you just have to make choices. There, it's just kind of laid out for you... simple. I miss that.

Anyways, thanks and thanks for the reply.

I think a problem is that we don't spend enough time doing things with other people; you lose focus. It becomes overwhelming...making all those decisions by yourself. It's like stressful. Especially if you get overwhelmed by that or something...needing the support of a group is very healthy. It is my own personal opinion humans were not meant by any means to be individualistic; it goes against our nature.

 

[Fadeaway]

In America, we don't talk to our neighbors. It is so hard to get to know someone in person. We are more spread out. We don't have a sense of community really.

MGTOW is scary. I knew some, and they were very big in to the fact that American men shouldn't date western women, and should stick to aisan women because they are more obedient and don't talk much. They seek out women they can abuse.

 

[Changing4Best]

My husband and I met at a church. I met my last boyfriend at a social club for seniors and I am currently not dating, though I have met men I dated through my work also in the past.

One thing that someone said here is that Americans don't talk to their neighbors. That is not true in my case. I have pretty much always talked with my neighbors, no matter where I have lived in America, except in New York City. There, no one talks to their neighbors!

 

[Never_falter2]

One of my brother is with an East Asian woman. Cannot really say she is submissive... and she actually talks all of the time... but he did not try tonet an East Asian woman. He just happened to meet her... but I get your meaning.

 

[Never_falter2]

@Erics i think religion plays a bigger role in the US but there is people who go to church over here. It depends very much in the church and how charming the reverend/priest is nowadays. A generation ago most Catholics would go to churh at least once a week but that is fading.
My hubby, who has got ptsd, used to play rugby. It was good for him but he also hurt himself. So I can see why people say it is too dangerous. The men on the club have been very nice with him. I think it is okayto join a sports club when you are a little sick. People will be kind.
Volunteering for charity is always a good idea.

 

[Deleted member 41765]

@Never_falter Couldn't disagree more. Religion, for at least half the population here, is obsolete.

 

[Never_falter2]

Is it? Yeah, in this case we get a wrong picture over here.

 

[EveHarrington]

Yeah, don’t listen to the news or Hollywood when trying to get a picture of what America is like.

 

[Justmehere]

@Never_falter Religion, for at least half the population here, is obsolete.

Research shows otherwise: http://www.pewforum.org/religious-landscape-study/
The majority of people in the US still consider themselves to be affiliated with one religion or another.

 

[Deleted member 41765]

Research shows otherwise

It depends on which research you are looking at: www.prri.org/research/american-religious-landscape-christian-religiously-unaffiliated/

Also, I mis-spoke. I was thinking primarily in terms of Christianity and the fact that affiliation does not necessarily imply practice.