Childhood CSA: I Think I Was Molested

[EveHarrington]

i don’t have the courage yet to show, but thank you. i told my boyfriend and he was really sad for me and angry at my abuser.

This is good! You opened up to another person and he is on your side. Maybe you could work toward telling an adult? Is there a counselor at your school? I don’t know where you live, but there are hotlines that can help. There is the RAINN hotline (rape, abuse, and incest national network), in the USA. If you’re not in the USA I highly suggest searching online for a hotline in your country.

 

[Wonder Woman]

What I am writing may not be a popular answer, but it is an honest one, based in reality.

Only you know your mother and family. Therefore, only you know if it is worth the risk to open-up to them. Not all parents are supportive, some blame their innocent child and further add to the trauma.

That said, it is important that you get help from some one, some where, and the sooner the better. You are a very strong, and resilient 14-year-old. Brainstorm which adult has in the past been the most accepting of you. If your parents don't regularly take your thoughts, feelings, and needs into consideration, then I suggest side-stepping them.

Is there a local rape crisis helpline you can reach-out to? Explain your concerns, especially if you know your parents will not be supportive and nurturing.

I will pray for you to get all the help you need.

Please know none of what your cousin did was acceptable. Yes, you were sexually assaulted. No, you are not to blame. You were a victim, not the one responsible. You are now seeking help, that means you are no longer a victim. You will emerge a victor, and perhaps you'll have to be the lone hero in your own life. But if you seek carefully and diligently, I know you can find someone to help you navigate this crappy situation.

I will keep you in my prayers. May safety and care find you.

 

[nork5k2]

What I am writing may not be a popular answer, but it is an honest one, based in reality.

dont worry!! this thread is old and i told my mother everything and she supports me. im getting help really soon and the dhr came to speak to me and ask questions. im going to a professional on april 6th and a trial between me and my cousin will be held and hopefully she’ll get arrested. thank you for the advice though!

 

[Wonder Woman]

dont worry!! this thread is old and i told my mother everything and she supports me. im getting help really soon and the dhr came to speak to me and ask questions. im going to a professional on april 6th and a trial between me and my cousin will be held and hopefully she’ll get arrested. thank you for the advice though!

Oh, good. I am so glad that you are getting the support and help you need. I was so worried about you. Concerned that you might not have been believed or helped. Thank you for giving the update. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that things go well at the trial. You are a very resourceful and resilient teenager. I am confident you will be an amazing adult, too. Take care of yourself.