Destroyed All Photos Of Father Today

[CreativJ]

AngelaMarie,
Your welcome! You actually gave me a smile and hope that I can overcome my own excuses to be the best me. I am always impressed with those that are able to overcome traumatic and drastic obstacles with grace and integrity for not only themselves, but for humanity. We need more energy going out into the world like yours. Keep moving through the world in this way and you will touch far more than just those around you. Keep up the good work MS. COURAGEOUS, however hard it may be. You are effecting change in our world through your actions.

 

[CreativJ]

Last Christmas, my aunt told me that I look more and more like my father every day. I was so insulted and angry that I just had to walk away.

It seems like hating the fact that you look like someone who has harmed you is very painful and has even more psychological affects on the person involved in the abuse. My friend going through PTSD also hates that they look like a certain parent, yet I have to tell them that your looks don't define your actions or who you are. You have set up a value system and standard for how you are going to live your life and that is amazing and something that you should feel proud of doing, yet don't hate yourself or be disgusted or insulted for something that you cannot change. You are still an individual with your own destiny to live and your motivation and drive to be different is enough to show that you are going to do what it take to be a better person, which is more than can be said about what your father put you through. Stay strong, I know you will gain perspective as you continue through your journey. You do not want your children hating themselves because you hate the way you look, based on an action of someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally. Break the curse of self hate your father had for himself and give your children (children to be) a healthier outlook on life and understand that looks are only always part of the whole picture. Blessings on your journey.

 

[AngelaMarie]

CreativJ,
That is one of the more inspirational things someone has ever said to me!!! I needed it. It's been a hard day. Thank you, thank you, thank you.:):):)

 

[atl22]

CreativJ,
That is one of the more inspirational things someone has ever said to me!!! I needed it. It's been a hard day. Thank you, thank you, thank you.:):):)

I second that. I'm having a rough day, too, but your replies have made me feel better.

Thank you!

 

[CreativJ]

CreativJ,
That is one of the more inspirational things someone has ever said to me!!! I needed it. It's been a hard day. Thank you, thank you, thank you.:):):)

AngelaMarie,
You are welcome. Glad that I can inspire you in some way, yet you are doing the hard work. I know how it can be when you have a hard day and coping with personal issues. That was my yesterday. I hope your day gets easier. Take time to appreciate how far you have gotten in your life, who you are and be grateful that you are still moving forward one step at a time. ;):tup:

 

[Serene]

Break the curse of self hate

Yes. Thank you CreativJ. Your comments are helpful to me too.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Serene, by sharing your experience you brought people together. You helped us think! Awesome and thanks so much.:tup:

 

[Serene]

Wow. Thanks.

 

[CreativJ]

I second that. I'm having a rough day, too, but your replies have made me feel better.
Thank you!

Your welcome and thank you back. I know how it is and am alway thankful for kind words, so and am glad that I can help and return the blessing to you. I hope your day gets better. We have to take it one day at a time, one moment at a time, be tender with ourselves and others and realize that we will get better, especially with positive support.

 

[CreativJ]

AngelaMarie,
You are right! Serene speaking her truth definitely helped us all deal with our own realities. It was definitely eye opening to have someone admit their down falls in their sickness and hold themselves accountable as well as hold those accountable with mistreating her accountable so that she can heal herself.

Serene,
I haven't thanked you yet, and I want to do that. I don't really know if I have PTSD, but I know I've had trauma and am triggered by a lot that's happened in my past ( I will tell the story at another time), but you made me think of something that I recently heard and has stuck with me: Hurt people, hurt people. For me that rings in my head, every time I want to defend myself by screaming or yelling at my friend who has PTSD for hurting me or my pride and ego. This forum has allowed me even in a day to look at things from a different perspective and look at others with compassion. What's interesting with PTSD, as I have read in many documents at this point, sufferers feel like others are the enemy and have a hard time trusting others, and I feel that way when I am attacked by my friend. Yet based on reality of the illness, because sufferers are stressed to a point of no return, those that cause stress do become your body's stress-or. I hope to get better at controlling my actions as to not create reactions and I hope to create better boundaries as to not react in an irrational way, knowing what I have learned. I also know that regardless, we are all accountable for our actions and we need to find ways to communicate that serves us as well as the listener. It's hard and a process and your story definitely gave me the perspective that it is never what it seems and that children will always protect what they love because they desperately want to be loved. Many lessons learned from your story. Thanks.