Diddy, Weinstein, et al: How are trauma survivors responding?

[Movingforward10]

I wonder why this is so.

Hard to understand isn't it? The value people place on victims (i.e. none?)? The value people place on money/power? Breakdown in being human? Selfishness/selfgain?
Idk.

I’m on the fence with very historical crimes. Whilst the false allegation rate is low it isn’t non existent. I can’t remember what I was doing on a non descript tuesday 20 years ago. Someone who was genuinely innocent and would have been easily cleared at the time can be in doubt years on just due to time passing and memory.

When it takes many years for people to admit to themselves what happened, it's going to take many years to report that crime.
At the moment, rapists know they can rape and walk free. Even in the UK where historical crimes can be prosecuted.
My head teacher was convicted of child rape 40 years after it happened. He made the poor man go through a trial. He then appealed that guilty verdict. And won, as he was found guilty of a crime that wasn't in legislation at the time of the offence, so he won on a technicality. So there was a re-trial. Only on day one of the retrial did he admit his guilt. He put that poor man through all of that. When he knew he was guilty.
So, I am all for prosecuting historical crimes.

But this, this makes me really f*cking angry. Because often other adults around do know.

Yep.
Just look at Trump. Not only is he now a convict, but it was proven in a civil court that he sexually assaulted someone. And yet: the republicans put him forward. Because who gives a shit.

 

[Weemie]

Are there actual statistics you can cite?

40% (up to full-blown 90%) of nurses face bullying behavior at work , stats for teachers / not comprehensive , 47% of therapists in one study , etc. This is just on the most cursory of Google searches, I am sure if you dove into it you would find the rates are much higher. Anecdotally speaking, a majority of people I personally know in these professions have some form of emotional disturbance, personality disorder, empathy deficit, etc. This doesn't guarantee a person will be a bully, but it certainly contributes to the risk.

 

[Sideways]

@Weemie - those articles are all about professionals being on the receiving end of bullying. Are you saying that puts them at greater risk of having a personality disorder or bullying others? (That’s not my experience of nurses teachers or therapists, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong - just confused how the being bullied on the job casts a shadow over the personality of the helping professions you’ve listed).

 

[Rose White]

@Sideways I think the implication is that the ones doing the bullying are their colleagues.

 

[Weemie]

@Weemie - those articles are all about professionals being on the receiving end of bullying.

Yes, from their colleagues.

 

[phillip224]

How have the spate of public cases involving celebrities like Diddy, Weinstein, and others affected survivors of sexual trauma and domestic abuse? How do you feel about plaintiffs waiting years to come forward? Has it made you reexamine past experiences and judge them as abusive or nonconsensual where you didn't before? Do the news reports trigger you? Provide catharsis? A sense of solidarity?

The recent wave of public cases involving celebrities has been a mixed bag for me. On one hand, it's empowering to see survivors speaking out and holding their abusers accountable. On the other hand, it's triggered a lot of painful memories and emotions for me. I've had to take a step back and reevaluate my own experiences, and it's been a difficult but necessary process.