My father has a habit of really being patronizing with my accomplishments, and constantly thinks anything I do isn't good enough. I was making 6 figures without a college degree as a tech analyst, and he would say I just got lucky, and maybe they just had to hire a few girls. I was good at my job. He also has this idea that women should not be working at all, they are just taking jobs from men when they work. Then, I got married to my husband, who is an attorney, but my father even went after his career saying that he's not a "real" attorney because he doesn't actually litigate in court. We bought our house after being married for a year, it was something we had planned since when we got engaged and were seeing a financial planner for it. My father refuses to come visit to even see my house, but keeps saying that he's surprised we were able to buy a house so quick. Like both of us are complete idiots that can't figure anything out.
My father also thinks really highly of my sister, who lives off of him in a house he bought for her and pays all the bills for. She keeps having babies, she works in a job where she makes less than $25,000/year, when she had a full scholarship to Berkeley but dropped out because "college is too hard". He brags about all the things she does, like recently she lost like 5 lbs and he wouldn't stop talking about how proud he was of her. But I gain 5 lbs when I only weigh 115lbs and after struggling with an auto-immune disease, and he tells me I'm getting fat. My husband has come very close to telling him off a number of occasions.
But what really, really pissed me off was recently when he publicly posted comments on my art business's google review site. I've already had to tell him to stop commenting on my business's social media pages, but now I have a Google review with my name that says "Good job, (my name). Maybe this will work out for you." This is a business I'm running so I can go to college and not have to work. For now, it's paying our mortgage, so it's doing pretty well. But that review looks so horrible. I'm almost 40, and he treats me like I'm either a moron or I'm an invalid that isn't capable of anything. I had a newspaper article that showcased my art, so it's not just some small project or hobby I'm doing.
I don't know if I should call him and tell him to take it down, or leave it alone. I don't know if this is even a big deal or if I'm making it out to be because of all the other things he does that piss me off.
My father also thinks really highly of my sister, who lives off of him in a house he bought for her and pays all the bills for. She keeps having babies, she works in a job where she makes less than $25,000/year, when she had a full scholarship to Berkeley but dropped out because "college is too hard". He brags about all the things she does, like recently she lost like 5 lbs and he wouldn't stop talking about how proud he was of her. But I gain 5 lbs when I only weigh 115lbs and after struggling with an auto-immune disease, and he tells me I'm getting fat. My husband has come very close to telling him off a number of occasions.
But what really, really pissed me off was recently when he publicly posted comments on my art business's google review site. I've already had to tell him to stop commenting on my business's social media pages, but now I have a Google review with my name that says "Good job, (my name). Maybe this will work out for you." This is a business I'm running so I can go to college and not have to work. For now, it's paying our mortgage, so it's doing pretty well. But that review looks so horrible. I'm almost 40, and he treats me like I'm either a moron or I'm an invalid that isn't capable of anything. I had a newspaper article that showcased my art, so it's not just some small project or hobby I'm doing.
I don't know if I should call him and tell him to take it down, or leave it alone. I don't know if this is even a big deal or if I'm making it out to be because of all the other things he does that piss me off.
