Do you ever feel like there is no one even remotely like you?

[Zutu]

My title sums up what I want to say. I feel like where I live is a factor. I should be in a city. I'm too eclectic for suburbia. There's nothing interesting to do here. Same gyms and martial arts classes here. Every bar and restaurant is a sports bar with cover bands. They sell burgers, steaks, Italian and seafood. There's a Kohls, a Walmart and an Applebees in every town near me. Nobody thinks like me or has my interests.

In the city there are adult dance and art classes, museums, live theater and concerts and foreign foods and festivals and marathins. I can be dark and edgy but political and intellectual all at the same time. But I can't move. My job keeps me here.

I know this isn't about ptsd but maybe it is in a way. I mean, it would be so much easier to deal with shut outs, isolation and emotional numbing if there was more to do! I can only look at Facebook and stream movies for so long. I can't even find a good book to distract me. I feel blachhhhhhh

 

[Judabu]

There has got to be something! Have you checked out your town's rec center for art classes and other types of classes? I have lived in some suburban places and everywhere I have lived the rec centers offer so much.

Also Meetup. Do you ever go there. I live in a pretty big area, so there are loads of Meetup groups for me to choose from, but maybe you have some good ones in your area.

That may also be book clubs and movie groups. Any other recreational activities like swimming and hiking?

I hope some of those suggestions help. They all have helped me to get out there and stop focusing on my situation.

Oh yeah, sooooo many books to choose from!! And movies....

 

[Mejabeg]

Yes, about 8 years ago there was a great Rec program. Unfortunately it ended due to some kind of political corruption. There’s hiking and lots of swimming in the summer. I like hiking and plan to do some when it’s not cold and rainy. It’s still not enough though.

I have about 5 books I started on my tablet and I keep falling asleep. For some reason they aren’t engaging me. I don’t know what it is. I don’t know what I need to do to feel whole.

 

[Tecus]

Donate your time to a charity.

 

[Fife]

I’ve lived in a lot of different places I just didn’t get on with.

My advice would be to start travelling to some places you might be interested in living, and putting out resumes there.

 

[Utosal]

I lived in remote areas and small towns most of my life so I get it. I am weird, I don't have average interests, I don't listen to mainstream music and prefer ethnic underground nor do have any interest in sports. Because I of my location hiking was just another been there done that, I was bored of nature. The types of book clubs that existed were feel good Oprah book club type fiction :yuck:, I like scifi-fantasy and dark fiction. It sucked and I felt very alone. Moving to a big city was huge for me when it came to finding people with like interests.

I have learned that people who grow up in certain areas, especially east coast u.s.are completely clueless about the lack of opportunities in most of the u.s. Volunteer opportunists where I grew up? Hah, that would be a joke, even at the animal shelters that is for jail inmates only. Of the 3 meetup groups in the area one was ran by myself for political 3rd party presidential candidate. That was my life for 35 years.

Seriously, if you can start putting money away for moving costs and start looking for a job in a city, I would.