Do you ever feel like you just want someone to save you?

[Cannottakethis]

All I thought when I read the title of this thread was YES YES YES
I always think I need someone to save me.
Unfortunately the people that I’ve allowed to try to save me in the past end up controlling me. This time I’m going to save myself.

 

[Ronin]

As to that question, no.

I want more viable options for fixing my life. Or to have options for starting a new, somewhere else. And I want man made stupidity out of my way while doing so if things -could- have a solution, I know of it, But Governments (human rights rant for another day).

 

[Gadgie]

When you live alone, like I do, there is nobody there to give you any support of any kind?

I well remember going through sheer Hell after my wife passed, just at the time when I really needed help and support, I got the exact opposite.

All her family, and there were many of them, turned on me, made my life terrible.

It was at that time, when suicide was on my mind quite a lot, and indeed I came close, but thankfully it hasn’t been as strong as it was back then.

 

[saraemerald]

When you live alone, like I do, there is nobody there to give you any support of any kind?

I well remem...

That's sad that happened to you. How people can just turn on you like that is crazy. I've experienced that in a different way when I was shunned by a dumb religious cult I was born into

 

[Rani G2]

I want to cry and yet there is too much anxiety and anger and feelings of being completely overwhelmed that are preventing me from just feeling my sadness.

I can understand fearing the resurfacing of emotions LosingHope! I never liked the idea of being saved because I find dependency destructive and this again means I am not developing any individual skills to deal with life.

 

[The Albatross]

Not anymore. It was a youthful/fantastical wish to avoid either my own mind or my consequences.

 

[EveHarrington]

Save, not quite. But I have seen a future with someone that would have given me more options.

 

[Iamsensative]

I am post-therapy and I am feeling a combination of helplessness and anger. I am in a place where I...

I guess this is pretty normal for us. I always had this white knight idea. Someone will save me, even through i know reality from fantasy. As a child it was comforting to think this. As an adult i still feel this. I am still in therapy and i really think its just keeps me from falling further down. I know i am a strong woman, i raised to wonderful sons. I have accepted that i will never have the normal carefree lives of others who have not been traumatized so many times. Sometimes through the ashes, we are diamond's that give this world the most compassionate and caring people.

 

[Friday]

Save me? No.
Boss me? Damn straight.

 

[katiem]

I go through times when I want to be saved. Usually when I'm feeling tired of trying to be strong. Sometimes just acting "normal" for my job all week is exhausting and lonely because it involves so much filtering and deciding how to respond and making sure that I don't respond the wrong way. When I think about doing this for the rest of my life, just to get by in the world, I want to curl up and have someone else take over.

 

[Gamereign555]

Yes I have felt like I needed saving by someone. My life has felt out of control at times. It’s true we can help ourselves but I don’t believe that is not true that others cannot help us too.

Others do help us but others can hurt us yes. It has been hard to let people in. I have questioned that, rightly so. I’m not perfect so I knowledge that others are not as well. If we don’t let others in they can’t help us.

 

[EveHarrington]

Don’t fall into the codependent trap.

It blindsided me.

I didn’t want a white knight but that’s what I got. A codependent fixer. I fell for it. It’s hell to fight your way back. You second guess EVERYTHING. You realize the codependent never cared about you. It’s the dysfunction that gives the illusion of care. It’s fake, it’s false, it’s a lie. You’ll wish you never met the codependent because they leave you more f*cked up than you ever thought you could be.

Run as fast as you can if someone wants to fix you.