Relationship Do You Find Your Partner Can Become Suspicious Of You?

[boodle]

Those are natural, but you have to remember you're not her saviour, you aren't duty bound to fix...

Thank-you @TheMinsterman
I really appreciate your comments, especially when your mind is going round and round with what ifs and 'did I do the right thing'. Logically I know I did the right thing, in my heart I see see that decent person suffering and trying to navigate life and emotions. As a fixer I wanted to help, but she has to want to sort it too. Somehow I have to get my head and heart in sync.

But if you know this isn't going to work for you? You don't string them along, lie, and betray them. You find your balls, and do the right thing, and break up with them.

I've been thinking about your comment @Friday I'd never thought of staying with someone if you're not sure it will work as a lie/betrayal. I appreciate your directness. I came to believe it would not work while she was self-medicating and was not in therapy with no sign of wanting to change. I'm still sad of course, but realise I could do nothing else.

 

[Mon15]

Honestly, all women have their crazy moments and do rash things... Some people can be manipulative and don't want you to have happiness, stay away from those people!

I can say I did my research on my S/O before we started dating, but my research came from others that we worked with and Facebook stalking (big company and his crew would come to my plant every so often and he would flirt for the first year before he made his move). I had been hurt before and wasn't really looking for a relationship, but it was like God kept bringing us together (him being in my area when I was there, and then taking me to his area for work), it was like I couldn't escape him so I took it as a sign to give him a chance and then we fell hard for each other and a year and half later here we are. I've only experienced the Combat PTSD rear up once in the beginning and again now (same time as last year), and I do understand that it is hard to deal and the mind wants you to be suspicious once you've been hurt before, but at the same time you have to find that trust that was built between you and leave it be.