Poll Do You Have Adhd, And Did You Have Npd Parents?

[Engineer]

NPD covert sounds like me honestly. Should I get tested for that? I do tend to be very judgmental to people and though I deny having low self-esteem (I just cringed here at typing this, doesn't feel right saying) there are moments where I admit it because of vulnerability. When I see people poor and defenseless ^ (Insert that long paragraph) I do help them. My ex-friend is actually diagonised with this.


*Diagnosed. I do have ADHD but, because of a doctor's mistake during my birth. My parents do not have NPD. Diagnosed at 8.

 

[SophiaWisdom]

1) At what age did your trauma begin?
Ancestrally - intergenerational trauma, the abuse began in womb

2) At what age were you diagnosed with ADD/ADHD?
Never been, probably don't have it (in fact very good levels of focus generally - to point of hypervigilance - and someitmes get into an almost autistic level of focus to accomplish tasks)

3) How would you rate your average level of dissociation, on a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being mild day-dreaming and 10 being Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) -- previously called Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)?

I'm very present w/ people b/c I'm an extrovert (and raised by an NPD mother to be an extreme empath), but about 5 dissociation while driving now b/c that is a traumatic activity for me so I avoid it

4) Intuitively, how do you feel about the possibility that ADHD might be caused by having NPD caregivers -- at least in part?
I believe NPD can cause any and all problems, including and especially schizophrenia. I believe this is one of the worst maladies in life and one of the most harmful yet prevalent illnesses that affect those of us with C/PTSD.

NPD covert sounds like me honestly. Should I get tested for that?

I had narc tendencies for decades b/c of my NPD mother - they tend to raise children that have the traits and you can either go down the path or, like me with HUGE amounts of awareness and intensive focus and work, you can come out of it and address the roots that cause it if you know what's happening.

 

[void]

1) At what age did your trauma begin?
Three years old.

2) At what age were you...

@Incongruous

May I ask how you completely healed from DID?

I am delighted that you have:joyful:, and I'm curious how you did.

I suspect other on the site, with DID, would love to hear about your success.

:hug:

 

[DrCreative27]

1) At what age did your trauma begin?
Very young - at least by 3 yrs old

2) At what age were you diagnosed with ADD/ADHD?
38 yrs old. As a kid I kept it very tightly controlled so as not to get punished - which was part of the "trauma". I was terrified to move or speak.

3) How would you rate your average level of dissociation, on a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being mild day-dreaming and 10 being Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) -- previously called Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)?
Before treatment: 8 (i checked out completely by age 9 or so.) As an adult i nevwr understood why i had different personality "modes" that i couldn't access at will. Now: It's a lot better, but I'm not sure when I do it, so let's say, 3 - mostly only under extreme trauma-related stress, only once every several months.

4) Intuitively, how do you feel about the possibility that ADHD might be caused by having NPD caregivers -- at least in part?
Just my 2 cents:
A) I don't think it's caused by this relationship. In fact, I think my mom's NPD was caused in part by being adhd in a world that didn't believe in it.
B) my relationship with my parents (also my brother, who was diagnosed adhd early on) was much more anxiety ridden because I didn't "behave right" and couldn't be "controlled" as easily as the other siblings.
C) the parental dynamic definitely caused a huge amount of general anxiety on top of the adhd, which made the adhd symptoms worse. I have been able to resolve much of that anxiety as an adult, in therapy.
TL/DR - it's a complicated fwedback loop, but probably not causal.

 

[physicist13]

1) like severe PTSD causing trauma... when I was like 9

2) Was diagnosed when I was 16

3) Varies, but maybe a 6

4) The possibility doesn't bother me. It is what it is, and I've met people with ADHD who had lovely parents so I think it's too unsure to say.

 

[Ocin]

Ok. So I am a shrink who was always cut down in my youth with A grades coupled with comments like "not working up to full potential"

My perinatal hx is significant for preeclampsia.

But. . . My mom is victim of CSA, MGM was left in charge of all sibs when her mom died when my MGM was ~13.
I steered clear of giving any labels or diagnoses To my mom . Last month when my EMDR goddess E repeatedly invoked this label as she helped me accept/push through/realize I want to protect my mama, and that is sweet and kind but who protected us??????? I was nothing more than an object. And now my cute kids are similarly useful.
Mom I'm not holding my breath. I pray for us all while I know you don't believe in anything

Ok. So I was always cut down in my youth with A grades coupled with comments like "not wo...

And I got Dx ADHD after college and a bunch of antidepressant trials and the stimulant meds help pull me outta the clouds but it is all early neglect/lack of attunement and blocked trauma.
Alive. Aware of the truth. Nothing else matters. (For me). Mom tells everyone about our success but when she speaks to me it is one cut after another. Give up. Move home. I am an object, my kids idols, my being sacrificial to the altar of the paternal line. But that is herstory


Oh dear forgot the dissociative piece-- can't even try to quantify. I know it shifts out of mildly annoying into disabling with adequate triggers i.e. me acting as admitting impatient attending on adolescent psych unit

 

[cosmicvibrations]

1) At what age did your trauma begin? at an early age... most of the psychological trauma that sealed my fate was between the ages of 11-14

2) At what age were you diagnosed with ADD/ADHD?... at 37 years of age

3) How would you rate your average level of dissociation, on a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being mild day-dreaming and 10 being Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) -- previously called Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)?... I ws never diagnosed with PTSD, however, I would dissacociate on a at about "4".

4) Intuitively, how do you feel about the possibility that ADHD might be caused by having NPD caregivers -- at least in part?
... The behaviors consistent with children exposed to child abuse can be mistaken for ADHD. That there is a genetic factor involved, certainly.
My therapist in Israel discussed this with me in that the hereditary disposition would not have been as emphasized.