Do You Talk About Your Trauma Too Much?

[Red Feather]

I can write about some aspects of my trauma. But I have a hard time talking about them, and a hard time talking in general. I always have the impression that my friends feel burdened by me when I talk about it, and feel uncomfortable, and then I dont want to seem like I must be the center of the conversation. So I started to limit the amount I talked about it to only the times when I was with my therapist. But I have the impression that this hampers my friendships in a way. It is a bit of a lonely trap...

 

[ericaboo]

I feel like my friendships end up centered around discussing problems, and I'm so sick of that. I have been avoiding friendships or keeping people at a distance - not wanting the relationship to get sucked into the black hole of reliving trauma or the shallow boredom avoiding the elephant in the room.

I yearn to find a new way of friendship - one that is about "the now" and optimism.