Do You Tell The T If You Have A Dream With Them?

[Blue boots]

C-trauma sufferer in US. I'm looking for opinions rather than advice. I recently had a dream where, among other things, my T was basically doing a session in public without any appreciation of the fact we were not in her office and it was therefore, inappropriate and crazy.

There are other details which remind me of a fight we had a month ago but have since been resolved.

I don't know how or if to bring it up, like I cant exactly hold my T to what the 'dream' version of her did? Like I'm not able to exactly give out about her seeing as she didn't actually do anything.

I don't really know what the dream means and of course, embarrassed to tell my T that I had a dream about them!

 

[Changing4Best]

Is there any chance that you just don't trust your therapist? Also, do you trust that he or she has kept confidence 100%?

 

[Panda Bear]

I had a dream that my T beat the crap out if me like my mom used to. He did all the same things she used to do, only it was him doing it.

He was of course told, as I became overwhelming terrified of him after the dream and was unable to trust him. I needed help separating fact from fiction and past from present. The dream happened because we were changing things and expectations and about to start something new and very unkown to me.

Share with your T, it'll help.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

It sounds like your subconscious is worried about the sessions being totally confidential? Are there worries in waking life about that, or other worries you have concerning your T? I see no harm in mentioning it in session. You could try to?

 

[barefoot]

I've had a few dreams about my therapist - I've shared some of them and each time it provoked an interesting discussion. It's not so much about holding her to what her dream self did - it's about looking underneath the meaning of that, the context around it, what's your psyche processing through that dream etc.

I actually had a very similar one to you a couple of months ago - doing a session in a public place and I felt really uncomfortable because of the lack of privacy and I didn't understand how she thought it was ok. I had meant to tell her about it but then other stuff came up and then I forgot about it.

Don't feel embarrassed about it. We're churning up a lot of stuff in therapy - it's not surprising that it seeps into our dreams as our psyches process things overnight while we sleep. If you bring it up with her, I hope the pair of you unearth some new insights together :-)

 

[HappyJock]

In my opinion, you should totally tell your T. about the dream. Your T is there for you and anything you have to say, regardless of what that thing is. I think you should just print this out and take it to your T. I find doing that the easiest, rather than verbally bringing it up. I had many therapists over the course of five years and only two of them have ever been in my dream. I've e-mailed them both and although they were surprised, they were happy I told them (via e-mail then) because having a dream like that, whether it be a good or bad one means something and it always helps to talk about it.