Does anybody want to join in being a routine buddy (“accountability” partner)?

Actualise

Learning
Tip from that self improvement book:
- don’t read the news!! He says he just gets his news from Google. I think the idea is to fill your mind only with positivity. I want to want to avoid getting caught in an echo chamber of confirmation bias myself. Critical reading of the news and limit it I think. Doom scrolling can go on forever.

What about cooking/ meal time management? What are other’s MO? I just wanna cook once for the week if I can help it.
 

TruthSeeker

MyPTSD Pro
@TruthSeeker thanks for thinking about how I could tackle gratitude and food.
I really thought hard about gratitude. I think it is a little difficult for me due to depersonalisation. It takes you down an existential rabbit hole (in my case) and I don’t know where to start. But I have a plan for now and will see how it goes.
Writing down dreams can be really tricky! They just go into the ether! You have to do it as fast as possible while you remember them.

Re food - how does everyone deal with this? I need to get a routine pattern going for it. @TruthSeeker stocking pantry well - yes. Then once a week? do grocery order with fresh fruit and veggies?(I’ve been getting them delivered.) I think so. I think I will pick one or two dishes for that week and shop for them then have other stuff that can easily be made into stuff to make up for the rest.

@TruthSeeker - that Spanish class sounds demanding! Is it advanced Spanish? I always find listening the hardest in language learning. Especially as you said you have a hearing problem you did well! You’re doing it!

@DharmaGirl that’s great. The writing down what I eat task I have found tricky in the past - I often went off course!😁 Also mindful eating - mindful stuff in the present - that will be a big achievement for me when depersonalisation is over.

Go team!
I got some challenging news yesterday, so sending me a boost, appreciated 🙏🙂.
When I started therapy....there were feelings I couldn't deal with because I had felt so isolated and alone.....so I never acknowledged them.....gratitude was one of them. I think gratitude came when I started surrounding myself with "happy" people who smiled and said "I'm glad that happened".....Wouldn't it be fun if....."......That sounds like fun. When I was in the sh.t hole.....I wasn't feeling very grateful. I think after I started journeying regularly......I met gratitude. When things went well....I started saying aloud in the moment....."thank you." Can't say why, but that helped.....then in journey we did a couple of journeys on gratitude......and when I journeyed, I wasn't constrained by my emotions.....and could find things to be grateful for. Just sharing my issues with "finding" gratitude. I had also started to do things that made me happy.....maybe it was situational.....I had something to be grateful for.....I know I was grateful for my journey group. You will find it when you are ready....journey over it...could be a solution??

Food-I got an InstaPot but before that I'd make three things in 3 different crockpots......and I still use a crockpot when I want to get meals in the freezer faster. You literally set it and forget it. I can work online while cooking. I really don't like having to stay in the kitchen....seems like a waste of good time. Instapot makes 1 hr meals in one pot...you can even saute in it...which I think is cool.....no frying pans for precooking certain meats.....and I freeze soups and anything mushy with liquid (like chilli) in 1 cup muffin tins. I flash freeze the muffin tins, and toss the frozen muffin-shaped soup in Ziplock bags, label the kind of soup, suck all the air out of the bag, and take them out when I want something healthy and home-made. I like something different each day....but can have the same soup several times in a week....so some variety is needed in my case. It works for vegetarian or nonvegetarian foods. So my soups are portioned, frozen and I thaw them either in the fridge, oven, or microwave. I can get between 14-18 1-cup meals out of my Instapot. You can do the same with a pot of soup.....So I eat 3 times a day.....and I put in the ingredients.....and know about how many calories are in a cup.....I can't have unhealthy things in the house....so I just don't buy them.....and let me qualify that with unless I'm overstressed.....but the more I practice the word "No" in my head, and stick with 15 minute grocery shopping.....I keep my time in the grocery store short.....the less "off list" stuff that's processed ends up coming home. It's a struggle.....but you are 100% correct....mindfulness is a big part of it.

I am so sorry you got challenging news yesterday.......that's a total bummer. But you are together enough to overcome it and come out okee dokee on the other side! Good luck with figuring out your meals......in a pinch....Premiere Protein shake-I like chocolate (160 calories) with a cup of milk added almost tastes like chocolate milk.....
and ends up being 240 cal. for breakfast. I feel better when I get protein in the morning first thing....and they really help when I'm not in the mood for cooking much.
Take care.......
 

DharmaGirl

MyPTSD Pro
I agree with the not watching the news, @Actualise. I don't like to be bombarded with strife from the world over. I do want to be informed, but not to the point where I think the whole world is bad. I'm also sorry you got challenging news. Your positive attitude will help with that though.

I have huge issues around eating so most of my stuff will be around that. I was bulimic for 10 years or so, then stopped myself with resulting obesity. I also quit smoking at the same time. I never ate normally so instead of restricting what I eat, I'm adding to what I eat. I have to eat a small orange (since I hate orange juice) every other night when I take my iron, so I've added a fruit every day now. I'm supposed to have an evening snack so that works well if I pair it with yogurt.

Goals as of today
1. Record blood sugar every am.
2. Record food every day
3. make bed in am
4. Eat a fruit for evening snack every day.

For the most part this is going well. I used to obsess over things I ate, what I was going to eat, what I wanted to eat etc all day! I wasted so much of my life obsessed with food. At least with dissociation it was entertaining. Oh well, got to live every day of the rest of my life.
 

TruthSeeker

MyPTSD Pro
I agree with the not watching the news, @Actualise. I don't like to be bombarded with strife from the world over. I do want to be informed, but not to the point where I think the whole world is bad. I'm also sorry you got challenging news. Your positive attitude will help with that though.

I have huge issues around eating so most of my stuff will be around that. I was bulimic for 10 years or so, then stopped myself with resulting obesity. I also quit smoking at the same time. I never ate normally so instead of restricting what I eat, I'm adding to what I eat. I have to eat a small orange (since I hate orange juice) every other night when I take my iron, so I've added a fruit every day now. I'm supposed to have an evening snack so that works well if I pair it with yogurt.

Goals as of today
1. Record blood sugar every am.
2. Record food every day
3. make bed in am
4. Eat a fruit for evening snack every day.

For the most part this is going well. I used to obsess over things I ate, what I was going to eat, what I wanted to eat etc all day! I wasted so much of my life obsessed with food. At least with dissociation it was entertaining. Oh well, got to live every day of the rest of my life.
Good on you for dealing with it. Been there, too and done that....some say getting on the scale doesn't help....it only makes things worse. But getting on the scale regularly really does help me start the day off with self-behavior mod because the scale is unbiased....it doesn't lie.....but when I don't get on....tend to fall back into old habits and lie to myself how 1 bag of chips won't hurt....so the scale tells the truth.....and that helps keep the weight going in the right direction and on a bad day.....helps keep me from totally tanking and falling into stress eating...is a daily reminder that there is a consequence to partaking in face-stuffing.
 

Denial-River

Learning
I’m so sorry, guys! I am not a good accountantability buddy and proved to be unreliable as well… 😔 I am just now coming back online, and saw that you guys are all doing fantastic with your goals! I wanted to let y’all know I am super impressed and also WTG!! 🥳 Again, my apologies for just now getting back online, but I you have gained a fan(me) who will be cheering you guys on! 📣
Warm wishes! 😎
 

TruthSeeker

MyPTSD Pro
Hey @Actualise -so sorry...I haven't been keeping up with my goals or the buddy aspect. I started a new short term job for 3 months and feel overwhelmed all the time....and they keep moving me around....I get one classroom and their issues resolved, then I'm onto another "problem" to resolve. I need to revise my goals...I only have until June 1 and then life will be back to normal, stress will be lower. I went on medicare, and life went to shit when I'm on really expensive meds that are life saving and life-sustaining in nature. So, when they went from 60.00-500.00 and then a scare of 400.00 I figured I'd go back to work and make a medical account. This was so unfair.....I'm required to sign up for Medicare, and the state drops my med insurance because of the magic number 65, and then medicine and care go to shit. But I'm back here this week on Spring Break......this job has had no training, and I'm like falling asleep at 9pm....anyway, I'm looking forward to a week's break, too.
 

Lone_Wolf

Policy Enforcement
Does anybody want to join in being a routine buddy? “Accountability” partner sounds a bit big stick like to me, though maybe that is just an association with a previous T that got angry at me when her one size fits all CBT didn’t work on me. I’m thinking more of just optional gentle encouragement for anyone that wants it.
I realise checking in is like a kind of CBT reminder device but I’m intending to just try to get in synch to get some structure that’s all.
I have had real challenges structuring my day and sticking to good sleep hygiene.

Maybe we could post check in updates for hitting marks in our schedule whatever they are. Eg
-went to sleep by _o’ clock ✅
-got up by _✅
-got exercise done
-meditated etc

Or any other suggestions for how to do it?

People being in different time zones is ok.

I’m not sure if this is posted in the right place, please advise if it should be elsewhere.

I have been struggling with this for ages. It would be great to sort it out next year.
I'm up for it, although I don't know how we'd do it.
 

Lilac98

MyPTSD Pro
Learn these phrases
Mou ichido itte kudasai (Please say it again)
Motto yukkuri itte kudasai (Please speak more slowly)
Itte kimasu (I'm going/see you later)
Itterasshai (please go and come back/see you later)
Tadaima (I have just come back/I have just come back home)
Okaerinasai (welcome back/welcome home)
 
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Lilac98

MyPTSD Pro
Learn these phrases
Mou ichido itte kudasai (Please say it again)
Motto yukkuri itte kudasai (Please speak more slowly)
Itte kimasu (I'm going/see you later)
Itterasshai (please go and come back/see you later)
Tadaima (I have just come back/I have just come back home)
Okaerinasai (welcome back/welcome home)
Learnt but may forget again. Currently trying to make sense of lesson 2 in the first Japanese from zero book. I feel like I'm finding this harder than it should be. It will take me longer but eventually I'll get better at it.
 
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