Dear Laur16,
I like your quote about letting the pain in....................in the last couple of years I have ben facing the pain and owning the anger. The more I am able to own my own anger rather than resist or reject it is changing me. I think the resistance to my anger probably creates more shakiness than expressing and releasing it. For me at this stage it is actually letting it be experienced, this anger has been there for three decades. I feel that for me part of the resistance is the difficulty, shaking it out means that I am experiencing predominantly as a concentrated physical metaphor, but at least I am releasing my attachment. Now I am able to own and express my anger and other (percieved negative) emotions more, it is less necessary to shake it out. Essentially I am transforming the nature of my attachment to these emotions and regulating gradually the emotional dysregulation that I learned to pocket up (dissociate) as a child. Part of that is changing the ownership perspective of these emotions i.e. owning and accepting my anger and other emotions rather than pushing them away, dissociating, denying, disowning and demonising my emotions. Therefore my release is more conscious, more stable, more gradual and more grounded. I am fighting my emotions much less.
Hope this makes sense.
