Does Therapy Take A While To Click?

[piratelady]

I have noticed something. I go therapy and we talk. He gives tells me his insights, I answer his questions, etc etc..for a very long 60 minutes. I sit there thinking, "Great, I've wasted another 60 minutes, none of this makes sense and is not helpful at all!"

Then I leave and I keep thinking on it and eventually it just kind of clicks and makes complete sense. That happened today. I left upset and unhappy and then a few hours later, when I was at work I completely understood what he was trying to get at.

I feel like the therapist expects this to happen immediately, while I'm sitting there. Does the light bulb just turn on right away when you guys are in therapy or does it take a while for you guys too? I'm just curious if I'm slow or normal. Thanks.

 

[amethist]

Hi piratelady

When my husband was in therapy, he too said it did not make sense at the time. Then a few days later, click , parts of it came together.

You will probably find a lot of it is repeated, and bit by bit it will come together, like a jigsaw puzzle.

It takes time, none of it will be easy, but worth it in the end.

 

[piratelady]

Thanks Amethist. I guess it is good to know that I am not alone in not understanding therapy right away. It's just frustrating that I can't just have him explain something, understand it immediately, and BAM I'm better!

 

[VDWngr1355]

I've had it happen as well. Even if I am in session and think I kind of understand what is being talked about, usually hours or even days later I will have a OMG moment when everything comes to together fully.