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Kris0520

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Hi I am very new to the site and haven't had a chance to really read a lot of the threads so if I am repeating questions and concerns that have already been talked about I am sorry.

My husband of 12 years was recently diagnosed with PTSD. He was released from the army in 2003 with an injury to his back. Since then he has had problems with his temper, communication and depression. It has gotten worse in the past year.

In May of last year he had to have surgery to repair a disc that was rupture, the same disc that caused him to be discharged. Since then he has had to quit his job because it was to much of a risk to his back. He has gone back to school to get his teaching degree.

In April of this year he was taken to the ER for what the doctor called an " episode" he had a fever that got really high and it caused him to be disoriented and he began to hallucinate. He was certain that there was someone trying to get into the house ad his mind told him that the only logical solution was to lock the house down and find a gun to protect the house. He was at home alone with our children. Luckly all of the guns in the house were locked in a gun safe and he couldn't find the key. I was at work and asked a friend to go and check on him. She called me and told me that she had him at the hospital and he was seeing and hearing things that weren't there. The doctor had to sedate him in order to calm him down.

When he was released my friend brought him home and stayed with him until I got home. He didn't remember anything that happened and was scared out of his mind.

Since then he has completely withdrawn into himself. He stays in our bedroom and avoids contact with anybody. He is angry,depressed, and freaked out. He won't talk to me about anything and I have begun to feel like an annoyance to him. I am at a loss as to what to do or say. Neither of us sleep well, I am beginning to become depressed and feel worthless. I don't know if this is normal or not.

How do you handle the stresses of PTSD as a supporter. Cause what I doing now isn't working.
 
Hi kris

Welcome to the forum.

No one is going to tell you any of this is going to be easy, but it is possible to manage in time.

The best thing I can suggest for you to start with, is to read as much as you can on the forum. Starting with the supporters area and the sticky threads, then moving on to other parts, the wiki section is a good one to get a basis of the different aspects of PTSD.

Read, then ask questions, even if they have been asked before, they are new to you, so pleas do ask.

In the mean time, take care of yourself and your children, and dont expect too much of him just yet, it is very early days and it will take a lot of time for him to regain some kind of normality. Hopefully with therapy and possibly medication.

Find a way round your own stress first, then you can help him with his.

Amethist.
 
Hi Kris,

You are not alone always remember that. There are many like us out here PTSD is not easy never forget that you love your husband and he loves you and the kids. I am very new to the site also and am in a relationship with a combat PTSD sufferer, this site has been eye opening and more help than anything I have done in the past.

Do something that brings a little bit of peace to YOU ever single day!
 
Hi Kris!

I am new here as well. I am dealing with a similar situation. My husband does not have the bad episodes. He is just constantly on edge and is angry. Throws up a lot, from stress I think. He gets annoyed with me most days. He yells at me a lot, but does not think that he is yelling. Maybe he confuses me with his soldiers at work.

I do not sleep well anymore, and sometimes I feel depressed too. Like you, I am looking for ways to help deal with the stress. So far, it is going out for walks with my baby. Walking around the mall, and being with friends. It is getting harder though. And the fact that I moved across the country and am away from all of my friends and family is making it worse.

Hang in there! I am trying to do the same.
 
Ok, I know this might sound crazy, but was he checked for a urinary tract infection? Sometimes UTIs can cause a person to hallucinate and become disoriented, especially coupled with the fact that he had a fever. It seems as though he has calmed down from that some, his body may be naturally trying to get rid of it. But seriously, have him checked for that. I know first hand how crazy a person can get.

When my mom had one she got up in the middle of the night and moved all the furniture around in the house looking for a baby that was in there. She said that the person the baby was with was leaving and she knew the baby was hiding in the house. Of course none of that was true and she was home alone. We took her to the doctor after that (completely freaked out because I thought my mom had gone off the deep end) and come to find out she had a UTI. She stayed a couple days in the hospital because she was still really confused, and it took her a good 2 weeks or more to get totally back to normal after she came home, but she is just fine again now.

A really odd thing that happened is when she was asleep she would just move and talk just like she was awake. She would 'fold' the bedsheet in the hospital just like she was folding clothes. It was pretty freaky. Usually a UTI only causes severe problems like that in the elderly, but it can happen to anyone.

Just a thought. Hope you get some answers soon...
 
Hi guys. Thanks for the responses. I appreciate them all. Rook he was actually treated for an upper respiratory infection which is what caused the fever. We sat down yesterday and actually talked about a lot of the stuff that has been going on lately. He apologized for acting the way he had been and told me that he honestly didn't realize tay he was doing it. We are both going to try to be more open in our communication. It's not a permanant fix but it's a start.
 
Well, communication is the first step. Just a thought but it might be helpful to make a sort of 'schedule' where you guys make a point to talk to each other about things going on with each other. Regular communication is a good thing. Good luck to you guys.
 
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