Dreaming I Can't Get To My Therapist

[samson]

I've had a couple of dreams now that things are keeping me from getting to my therapy appointment and by the time I get there he is gone.

Any thoughts on what that means?

Samson

 

[BloomInWinter]

I had one of those.

I think mine was at a time when I was trying to trust him enough to be honest but when I'd get into the office, I just couldn't talk.

It's a good sign when your T. appears in your dreams, I suspect. It means we're letting them into that 'healing space', as scary as that is.

 

[samson]

My therapist loves to talk about dreams so I'm sure he will enjoy telling me what he thinks this means. :) I have had other dreams about him, but they were more ab out him being helpful and attentive to me. I get really frustrated in these dreams where I can't get to him. I've wondered if it's the hurt scared parts of me fighting what is surfacing in the sessions.

 

[maddog]

For me, dreams like that are usually about insecurity and fear of abandonment. I have them from time to time, also often featuring my therapist, and they are hugely distressing. Our minds play out their unconscious priorities in all sorts of strange ways...

Maddog

 

[Hashi]

It does sound like it could be about obstacles to talking, or obstacles to talking about particular things. The things in your dream that are keeping you from getting there could be significant.

I'm sure it will be interesting to talk about with your therapist.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I cannot presume to know what your dream is about. The symbolism is rich. You are trying to get to the therapist and you cannot get there.

It seems that you are looking for your therapist for help. But you cannot find him. I wonder what that part of the dream means. It is as if you are split in two. One part of you wants to trust your therapist and one part is afraid of abandonment by your therapist. It represents a conflict inside of you.

Mabe you are trying to trust your therapist and are looking for that relationship. And part of you fears if you open up and trust you will be abandoned by your therapist. I am not authority. This is just my guessing and my perspective. I hope you will resolve what ever is going on. I am wishing you the best. I could be totally wrong. Just my two cents.

 

[samson]

I'm sure there is fear of abandonment. We discussed this early on. I have been hurt by many people in authority that I have trusted over the years. I told him on my 2nd or 3rd visit that I'm afraid something will happen to sever this relationship and process. He asked me what I thought might do that and I proceeded to give him a list of things that could happen to either one of us. :) He assured me as much as he could that he wasn't going anywhere.

I'm also feeling much better in between sessions and not needing him as much. That could have something to do with it too. It's so funny, in my last dream I was working at some sort of flea market selling shoes and when it was time for me to leave for my session I couldn't find my own shoes. I just kept sorting through this big pile of shoes until it was too late. Funny - why didn't I just put on a pair of shoes and go. :)

Thanks for the discussion - it really is fun to talk about this stuff.

 

[samson]

I asked my therapist today what these dreams were about. He feels like they are a sign that I am becoming dependent on the therapy process. He says this is healthy and normal and really necessary for therapy to work. It is a part of my life that is becoming very important to me.

Hmmm.