Embarrasing

[anna_spanner]

Hi, not sure if anyone else has this but really embarrassed.

I have a diagnosis of DID. Recently it's been a difficult patch due to therapy. And I've been finding I've been waking up after nightmares to find I've wet the bed. Even in day time when I've got in a state, had flashbacks I've suddenly found I've wet myself too. Yet sometimes I'm so tense I can't go to the loo even if I try. I get there and nothing happens.

It's so frustrating and so embarrassing, I'm supposed to be an adult

Anna

 

[MomOfTwo]

I would see your physician to make sure that you do not have something going on. Tell your doctor everything and hopefully he can give you informed advice.

 

[piratelady]

I agree with MomOfTwo, it would be best if you went to the doctor. It is best to know you don't have something else going on physically.

 

[Abstract]

Hi Anna,

I am so sorry that you are doing such hard work at the moment and it is so distressing. I have heard of others who have repeatedly lost control of their bladder when in the intense distress of severe nightmares and flashbacks. I am so sorry. It must be very hard.

This is not your fault and nothing to be ashamed about.

I think it is also definitely worth while have the physical side checked out just in case although this could very well just be to do with intense distress.

I hope this difficult patch in therapy passes soon. Take care.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

HI, this happened to me and I went to the doctor and he put me on medication that deals with the accidents. Get yourself checked out to make sure it is not a physical ailment. I wish you the best.

It is embarrassing but it is also a part of life. I was having to go all of the time. It was terribly uncomfortable. I had to replace my mattress to my bed. I have not had any accidents in a very long time. I have also learned to go when I first get the urge to go. I have had some close calls.

I wish you the best with this problem. I think it is pretty common. Hugs.

 

[DharmaGirl]

This happened to me too when they put me on Risperdal. It happened whenever I was on it. I totally understand the embarassment

 

[safenow]

I have DID, but mine was called MPD (multiple personality disorder). After you see your medical doctor to be sure it's nothing physical, get yourself some briefs to wear at night. It is just one of your little who is having a hard time. The fear causes you to urinate or even defecate. As an adult, of course you are embarrassed. I know exactly how you feel. When I'm switching a lot between alters, I don't even realize I've wet on myself until I stand up.

After the bad guys cut my insides with a knife, I've had to wear briefs most of the time. I was able to not have to during a long stretch of no little or teen coming out. And that was very nice. But when I'm triggered, or under a lot of stress I have to wear them.

Remember, it is not your fault. Really, believe that, because it's true. Those who caused you to have to have DID are the ones who should feel that shame and guilt, not you.

 

[anna_spanner]

Thanks, it's good to know I'm not alone.

I've mentioned it to Doctor but too scared to have intimate physical examinations for various reasons. It's a high possibility that it's the DID and infection has been ruled out. It happens more when going through a rough patch, but it is frustrating and upsetting. Makes me feel humiliated and doesn't help the instability.

 

[Heather]

Yes, anna you are definitely NOT alone! It's happened to me as well.... it's awful and embarassing. I've woken up to find that I've "messed" myself (#2). Totally gross.

Hang in.

Heather

 

[HëllaBubz]

This is known as stress incontinence, which has a variety of reasons for it.
I suffered from it until just before I ran away from home at 16.

I had several incidents of it over the years after I moved out of home when I was in really rotten situations, the most recent being after my diagnosis in 2010.....most recent episode was about 8 months ago, all though sometimes I wake with the feeling I'm about to go to the toilet and have to bolt off to the bathroom.

Parents and grandparents gave us (myself and siblings) hell about it.......it's a subject that I'm highly sensitive about and cannot handle it being thrown about in my industry (aged care).

Supplements which control muscles and assist with anxiety are Magnesium and Calcium, you cannot take too much of either.
Also use Rescue Remedy before you go to bed to help lessen stress.

 

[WillyKat]

After being molested / raped at age 5, I wet my pants and the bed. The perp had kept me terrorized for about three or more years until we moved away. I think it was a way for me to try to tell people there was a problem, but I was too little to vocalize what it was and soon, I was repressing the memory.

So I agree that it's related to your stress. Maybe it's a way for you to speak some truth; it's just not coming out in words.

 

[surviving_it_all]

I've been so nervous from anxiety that I have peed myself. We don't have much control over how these diseases affect our heads. I have never told anyone this because it would be embarrassing, but its ok. See your physician, mention it to your therapist, and try to see it just as something that happens. The two times this happened to me, I wanted shrivel up in embarrassment. I have kind of just accepted that it happened. Since, my PTSD has improved this hasn't happened since last June.