Sexual Assault Embarrassed with being aroused when thinking of the assault

[The unknown cat]

I was sexually assaulted for many years. I have struggled for years now with being sexually aroused all the time when thinking of the assault. It’s to a point where I Will orgasam just by thinking of it and it’s embarrassing. Has anyone else had this happen

 

[littleoc]

I like your username choice!

It's a common coping skill for sexual assault victims to have problems like this, and it is not your fault.

Are you in therapy at all? This might be something you could talk about in therapy to find out what you'd like to do about it.

Welcome to the site

 

[littleoc]

@Riley Jones comment on this please:

I was sexually assaulted for many years. I have struggled for years now with being sexually aroused all the time when thinking of the assault. It’s to a point where I Will orgasam just by thinking of it and it’s embarrassing. Has anyone else had this happen

Edit: Oh, maybe you're not logged in?

Anyway. Fear and arousal both use/have the same physiological responses. It's common for a "glitch" like this to occur when your brain has labeled one as negative. It is not just you. I'm sorry it's embarrassing to you, but it is a normal response.

 

[Friday]

If you touch a hot burner? You get burned. So…. One learns to use a hot-pad instead of getting burned.

1. Slicking up delicate tissues so they don’t tear? Is like using a hot pad, before touching a hot burner. Pure physiological protection.

2. The control factor? Mental/Emotional protection.

1+2= NORMAL.

 

[SeaLionMan1982]

I was sexually assaulted for many years. I have struggled for years now with being sexually aroused all the time when thinking of the assault. It’s to a point where I Will orgasam just by thinking of it and it’s embarrassing. Has anyone else had this happen

Don't feel bad as embarrassed as I am to say this I have gotten turned on thinking about my abuse, I hope that doesn't make me messed up.

 

[nada]

I am a 29F, I was sexual assaulted by my 49 year old step father a year ago. I don't know how much I can say, but I know that thd entire time he was with me in my bedroom I was so disgusted with myself because I was so sexually aroused. I cried for weeks because I had such intense orgasems and I still become so aroused remembering it i will masturbste thinking of it. I feel so terrible ashamed and guilty. I am afraid that I might be disturbed.

 

[SeaLionMan1982]

Nada
I'm happy to talk to you if you want to talk about anything, I'm so sorry you dealt with that.

 

[Roland]

It's unfortunately very normal. Trying to regain control by making it so you like it. It can be a way to process it. It doesn't mean you did like it, wanted it, or that there's anything wrong with you.