Emotions Are Too Hard.

[RaggyDoll]

I have just had a huge trigger, woke up feeling good for once, the sun was shining through the window with blue sky. Then if felt like suddenly I was anxious I am trying to think of the trigger and I think it was thinking my partner might leave me because of the way I am right now.

Following six months of therapy after being unable to express my emotions, especially negative ones all my life after they were very much discouraged as a child. I now seem unable to contain them, they are always on the surface, anger in particular. This has led me to being snappy or depressed all the time with little sign of laughter and sadness. My partner this weekend said this has led to her not being able to say how she feels at the moment because she thinks it might trigger me. She doesn't feel she can express different opinions to me for the same reason.

I don't know what to do I don't know how to regulate these emotions so that I express them at an appropriate time or in an appropriate way, does anyone else feel like this I wonder?

We used to be happy. My T is going to discuss with her colleagues whether DBT therapy might be appropriate, I don't know if this is just related to BPD which I haven't been to told I have but lots of things fit.

 

[Justmehere]

Even if it is not related to Borderline Personality disorder, DBT might be a great option.

DBT helps a lot of people with a variety of mental health conditions learn how to regulate emotions better - which is something I have had a hard time with myself.

 

[Casey_03]

I don't really know what you can do to control these emotions/mood swings or whatever they are, but I don't think it would hurt to write a long letter to your partner telling her you are grateful for her tolerating them. Understanding goes a long long way in any relationship, but especially PTSD ones. I say write a letter because sometimes it is easier to express things that way. Tell her that you understand it is hard and you understand her predicament but that you too are going through something, and you need her to understand that. If you guys can talk about it openly, that will only bring you closer together. I think that's really all that is needed here -- understanding and empathy on both sides. While I can understand why she would feel like she's walking on eggshells, I can also understand why you are on this rollercoaster of emotions. It's a rollercoaster for both of you though, really, so if you two can come to understand that and be open about it, I think the relationship will only be stronger. Just tell her what you told us, that you don't know how to regulate these feelings but you recognize that it is putting a strain on things. Be open, as hard as that may be.