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This has been happening more frequently in my relationship with my significant other. We’ve been together for 6 years and the only change is that I’ve been working thru past sex related events that were violent. I avoid sex by default but have been working diligently on that and have made progress. My SO has a very high sex drive so I do push my boundaries to meet a much lower demand than would be desired by SO.
In the past I could robot thru sex and be unphased. Recently, the memories are regularly in my mind and doing a good job of reinforcing the avoidance loop. Several times over the last 6 months I haven’t remembered we had sex until I was told the next day. I have dissociated during sex plenty, but still have a sense of knowing sex was happening.
This other thing, is like I’m not even there.
After making progress I don’t understand why this is happening now. Just curious if others have had similar experiences and if so....how did you change it or did it remain?
In the past I could robot thru sex and be unphased. Recently, the memories are regularly in my mind and doing a good job of reinforcing the avoidance loop. Several times over the last 6 months I haven’t remembered we had sex until I was told the next day. I have dissociated during sex plenty, but still have a sense of knowing sex was happening.
This other thing, is like I’m not even there.
After making progress I don’t understand why this is happening now. Just curious if others have had similar experiences and if so....how did you change it or did it remain?