General Ex Made Contact Before Move

[Confused nice guy]

I have gotten some good advice here in the past and was looking for a little more. My ex gf has ptsd that is diagnosed, but doesn't go to therapy anymore. She's had some erratic behavior with me over the past months. We hadn't had any communication for a month or two. Last week she text me to let me know she was moving (I did know she was planning this) and that she was sad about how things ended its us ( I have some earlier posts if anyone would like the details). We had a few nice texts and she said that she wanted to see me to say goodbye. She was going out with friends last night and I told her I would come out if she wanted. She text me during the day to let me know she would be out. I text her at night to see what time. She responded 2 or 3 hours later and said she was out. It was midnight and I told her I Didn't hear from her and went home. She didn't respond to me last night or today when I said if she still wanted to see me before she left, I would meet whenever it worked for her. I'm not sure how to approach this since it was her asking to see me. I was definitely not planning on talking about anything involving us and let her dictate everything. I still care of her, but I don't think I'll ever see her again and it hurts. She has given me the impression that I am the only one she ever cared about or made a real connection with since her night of terror (I never now how to refer to it). Any advice is appreciated.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Sometimes it's good to cut your losses. How were you doing before she contacted you again out of the blue?

 

[Confused nice guy]

We had no contact for a month or two. We hadn't actually talked on the phone or face to face since she broke up (4 months earlier) with me by text with no reason, but said it wasn't my fault and I treated her better than anyone else.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I mean, how were YOU doing @Confused nice guy?

 

[Confused nice guy]

Sorry. I misunderstood. I was doing a real good. I always wanted a little closure and say good bye but I had made peace with it not happening. Then all this came up.

 

[BrokenWoman]

I'd say don't see her. I think it will only make it harder for you. You've already made peace with it.

 

[Confused nice guy]

I know that's the right thing to do. I'm not planning on it. It's just tough with old feelings coming up and wanting to know she's ok. I worry about her. I've never gone through anything like this before. This site has been great. Thanks for the advice.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Maybe this will be your closure.

Look at what happened. She wasn't capable of saying goodbye and giving you the closure you need... Even though she instigated it. You did all the accomadating, and it still didn't happen.

Maybe that is what your whole relationship would be like. You constantly accomadating her, and her not giving you what you need, even if she tries.

 

[BrokenWoman]

I agree. I'd just hate for you to get hurt all over again by opening up an old wound. Sweetpea76 is right. She instigated seeing you and then didn't even follow through. I'd just text her your final peace maybe and let that be your closure and then block her. Seems like you'll only keep getting hurt otherwise.

 

[EveHarrington]

I agree----She cares but can't (for whatever reason) see you one last time (even though it appears that she does still care). I think it's best to move on for your own sake.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's good to take with you the positive things she's said.