f*ck My Problems

[Deleted member 20280]

@The Albatross - I have been feeling really guilty of late what with mum doing my shopping and other bits, cooking for me every day as I have been too ill in myself to do much. When Mum fell ill last night I just seemed to find that inner resolve to fight and put my problems aside for now as she is in a worse state of ill health than I am.

She is my Mum and regardless of our checkered history I Love my Mum.

 

[Missycat]

Laurie, :hug: s for you and your mum. Im sure you being with her and there for her gives her strength.
Take care of you both

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Paramedics attended and carried out a full assessment of Mum. I can not fault them in any way at all. With it being Saturday night the Doctor got back to us within the hour.

Mum is now on a med regime that I will Religiously make suteMum takes her medications when they are due. Mum has stated openly in front of the paramedics that she will follow my direction with her care now as I am the only medically knowledgeable member of our family.

Mum and my eldest brother have been fantastic over these past nine months caring for me and my illnesses, he is very poorly with COPD and cannot care at the level mum needs, so I am taking over mums care until she is fit enough to manage.

I don't care how long this takes. She is my mum.

 

[Missycat]

@Mr Laurie , good to hear that she has been seen by the medics and will hopefully be on the mend soon.
Please ensure you look after yourself too as you will need your strength to look after your mum. Do you have other family or friends who can also help you.
Take care :hug: s

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Yes @Missycat, my eldest brother also lives with me and Mum but he has Chronic COPD and gets out of breath really easily. I will be fine and please don't worry about me. I used to be an end of life Nurse Carer in the Private sector.

:hug:s

 

[Missycat]

@Mr Laurie ,
As i said yesterday - you are the Terminator so i know you will be okay :)
You know we are all here if needed, just as you are there for us.
MC

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Update.

Mum has slept all night and most of this morning. Meds taken as per instructed and she has managed to have something to eat and drink 2 cups of tea. She is now wide awake and reading but still unable to move very far without pain. Pain relief is working well.

 

[Missycat]

Laurie,
Pleased to see that she is eating and drinking and the pain meds kicking in.
MC

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Mum has managed to eat more. Has more movement in her neck too now, has been awake all afternoon and chatting more.

She is on the mend but I will still be calling her own Doctor tomorrow in any event. Brother is now up as I slept last night and stayed awake all night so that mum was not left alone and in danger.

We are doing the same for a few days to make sure she is safe.

 

[Gadgie]

It's good to know that your Mum is being cared for by her family, after all Mums spend years looking after us, and bringing us up on the straight and narrow.

A lot of families in the West, just put their parents into nursing homes, and forget about them.

Whereas in the East, they have a different attitude towards their parents. They take car of them in their twilight years, and respect them, I think we all could all learn from them.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Well mum had a good night and is now managing to get up from her chair unaided if a bit stiff. She has managed the stairs this morning as well and eaten a good breakfast.

She is an independent woman so taking orders from me has not been easy for her but she has been that poorly this weekend I have had to lay down the law and she does appreciate it all.

She was very apologetic to me that I missed the England game in the Euro on Saturday, well that's a no brainer for a start. Which is more important ? "Laurie buggers off to the pub, gets drunk and watches the football, or forfeits this to stay at home with his 71yr old poorly mother, calls for a 2nd Ambulance, then walks the 3%1/2 miles to the pharmacist to collect her prescription??? "

Off now to see my Vampire as I need to lose more blood to the NHS, lol. She knows I call her the Vampire and always giggles whenever I need bloods taken, pock up Mums latest prescription, then the shopping then home.

It may look as if I am blowing my own trumpet with this thread but believe me, I am so honored that Mum is allowing me to care for her, especially after the past nine months.

:happy:

 

[Blackjack]

Laurie, you should be blowing your own trumpet and be proud and honoured. You are a good and huge hearted man who will do anything for those you love. Your mum must be incredibly proud of you. Xx