Facebook Depresses Me - Facebook Blues

[starry]

I just deleted my facebook account. I find myself on there looking at peoples pictures, wishing I was able to go and do all those fun things and it makes me sad and angry at myself for not wanting to leave my apartment or even my couch. Is this weird? PLEASE someone tell me you have felt this too.

I just feel like I am missing out on life.

I have been so moody I am happy one minutes and depressed the next.

I feel like I am going crazy.

Hi
I feel exactly the same way. So many times i would go on there are feel terrible afterwards, like you I just felt incredibly sad that people were doing things I could not do at this point in time. I deleted my account as it was made me more ill and I would feel so down for days after going on there.

If it helps your mental health I would say delete it.

 

[Gloria]

There are some people who are addicted to Facebook. I only got once every month or two. It depresses me. Facebook is addicting to people who have no lives. If you are seeing all these wonderful things, that's only part of the picture. Who knows? They might get getting drunk and/or miserable in their lives.

At first I was first I was very hurt but now I am totally disgusted. My so-called "best friend" was on Facebook and sent me about for some farm thing. They send hugs and stuff and I just can't keep up with all of it so I don't respond. Well, my friend didn't what she wanted from me for builing some virtual farm so she deleted in Facebook and has not spoken to me or e-mailed me in months. She also used to send me all these chain e-mails that I was supposed to forward to 10 people or something really bad was going to happen to me. I refused to send them to my friends and fill up their e-mail boxes with garbage so for the longest time, I would just send it back to her blind copy to keep her happy. But then I got sick of four or five a day and I never talked to her on the phone so I stopped returning them. Then she sent me an e-mail saying "Forward this e-mail or you are not my friend" and I didn't and that the last I heard from her. Facebook and forwarding e-mail are not real friends. I leave my profile out there so if I won't lose touch with people that I don't have contact with any longer. But Facebook and you have to just leave it alone. I would suggest going to your Facebook page, hiding your personal information and turning off all automatic notifications. If you feel like going on there once in a great while, it's a useful tool but go out and take a walk, enjoy the real world and don't get stuck on your computer!

That's just my opinion. I got carried away with looking up my abusers and old boyfriends and got depressed. I don't go there anymore.

 

[Healing Survivor]

I do the same exact thing. I can't handle looking at other people's lives. I don't feel like I'm capable of having such a life...it's not a good feeling.

 

[Gloria]

Dear Healing Survivor,

I don't know how many times I've heard people on this forum feel hopeless that they will never be married, have a normal life and be happy. To be honest, I had a crappy week and I'm feel exactly that right now. A few years ago, I was very much in love with my boyfriend, my sister was alive and my son had not gone in the army and come back crippled. I felt happy then but with a lot of bad things that have happened, I feel sometimes that I will never have a wonderful life ever again. You know the funny thing? A friend of mine just called and told me he saw my pictures on Facebook. One of them is me dressed as gypsy on my beautiful horse when we made a short appearance in a movie. Well, that was just one moment and doesn't represent my life which I feel has been filled with pain. The point that I am trying to make is that sometimes the snapshots and the pictures show a perfect life but in actuality,many people are very unhappy. When you are unhappy, you might think everyone is better off than you. Right now, there is a special on television about cancer. There is much suffering and hardship in this world. We will all find bits and pieces of happiness throughout our life. I hope that you will find much joy. The pain doesn't last forever.

Hugs!
Gloria

 

[Deleted member 6617]

I have mixed feelings about facebook. Sometimes I get jeoulus at the people who seem to get tons of comments with every little thing they post. I realized, just this week, that I wouldn't like that. I have wittled the list of people who see my home page down to very few. I don't want all the activity in my life right now, but I do want to keep up on those friends and family who are important to me. In some cases it is the only way I hear from some of them. That seems to be the direction of our society. As long as I can keep it as simple as I need it to be, I can handle it. I guess I am saying, make it what you want it to be.

Having said that, I do understand the addiction side of it too. I was there for awhile. Had to comment on every post, play the games, grow the farm, build the town. I never did get into looking up people, but I chatted with people from all over the world. Wow....that person is so far gone. The very thought of all that activity is giving me anxiety.

Simple! Keep it simple! That is my humble opinion.

PH

 

[Jade-]

Facebook makes me laugh. I look at profiles and some people have like 300 or more friends....yea,right. They just add as many people as they can, whether they really know them or not.

And people put the most stupid shit on there....I don't really care if they just brushed their teeth or if they're at McDonalds. Sorry to offend those that do that, but to me it's funny. Everyone tries to make it seem like every little thing they do is so important or like their lives are so interesting. Yet, if that was true, would they really post that they just brushed their teeth? LOL

FB doesn't depress me, it actually pisses me off. I can't do anything anymore without someone posting pictures of it. I don't want my employer or my T. to see pictures of me out doing things I'd rather others didn't know about.

 

[anni]

It's still been over a year since I've been back to mine. I waffle about doing it. On the one hand, cool to keep up with people, just touch base, etc. see photos, say 'hi'. On the other, am a tad reactive to what feels like stalking and that happened so.... . Plus, I think I said before that it really does get used as a weapon. Sure, one can opt-out and refuse to engage in the nastiness but the point is, is that it's there at all and happlily employed by those who still feel the need to squish other with their 'supieriority'.

Facebook also does that 'thing' I find creepy, although realize it makes some sort of programming sense. Still creepy. It 'finds' people FOR you. I reallyyyyy do not like that at ALL. Iew. It several times gave me names of people from THOSE DAYS, one of whom was involved tangentially in the real stalking-beyond creepy and intrusive, I think! The reason I haven't been back is the wish to not have to log on to some snotty comment from some pissy witch, or see or hear that once again something I've posted has been used to try to cause trouble in my marriage but boy, the creepy factor will go a long way to me just deleting my account, finally.

 

[BloomInWinter]

I work as a professional webmaster. I am on the web all day and have to be on facebook to help curate some business pages.

I think with the right knowledge, tools, and a healthy dose of cynicism, Facebook can be a real source of help to those of us with agoraphobia, social phobia, etc. keep some contact with our existing social circles.

Many co-workers and I have to post to 'keep up our presence' and our posts are truthful but 'rose-colored glasses' posts.

I have become convinced that the majority of postings are simply people putting their 'best face forward.' I look at facebook posts like the polite answer to 'how are you doing?' to which someone might politely answer "I'm GREAT!" (even if they're dealing with some very challenging life circumstances that day.)

By my understanding of social media, Facebook & MySpace is not really helpful to grow our social circles with any real breadth nor depth.

For that, I'm discovering once again that I need to force myself to go to events I think might be fun (though terrifying); to find some service work that is meaningful to me, and 'show up early, hang around a few minutes afterward' to listen & get to know some of the other people. Hopefully, this will help me begin the process of forming new, healthier acquaintances based upon healthy shared interests & experiences.

This had worked for me in the past - but it's been a long time since I tried it. I'm working to try to flex those social muscles again but its not easy. I find my anxiety and self-hatred 'inner critic' really undermines my resolve and enjoyment of much of the experiences, but am trying to find the 'pleasurable snapshots' of the activity that I can take away and store in my memory.

I really am looking forward to when this gets easier. I'm HOPING this gets easier! :>

 

[JamesyBoyyyUK]

I feel exactly the same as you Hopeful.

Recently 40 of my friends including my girlfriend went to Zante for 10 days but I decided not to go because I've only recently been diagnosed. I found myself looking through about 500 photos of them all having a wonderful time and it literally brought me to tears to think that I cant share that experience with them. It can be heartbreaking and I know exactly how you feel.

I advise stop using it so much, that's what I've done and I just concentrate on trying to make new memories with people really close to me that I can trust. That's the most important thing.

Many wishes,
James

 

[Elizabeth]

I have mixed feelings about Face book. I opened an account this year when I had surgery. I have found it nice to see the pictures of my family. On the other hand it reminds me that I am not out there living. I have shut myself in, and I don't know how to get back out to socialize. It makes me cry as I write this. I play far too many games on face book to avoid that I don't have anything going on in my life. I don't want to go out of the house and I feel trapped in the house. I don't like living alone. Face book is a poor substitute for a real social life. Yet I can not find the strength to go out and create a life. Working on this with my T.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I play games too. In those games i have lots of friends. And I'm such a high level no one can touch me....

I miss having friends, i miss being about to text someone what are you doing and they text you back b/c they like hanging out with you.

But i'm starting to reach out...just a little.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I hate logging into facebook after days...and no one has said a word to me about anything.

Or the only person to wish me happy birthday on facebook was my mother