Family using a misunderstanding as a mh problem

[FMCA]

I feel like every time there is a misunderstanding or when something isn’t explained it is used against me with people then saying my behaviour is spiralling again because they said something that wasn’t true or rather didn’t explain it properly and it felt like a bit of an attack.

I was desperately trying to find out what is done wrong again and I was then accused of spiralling ie. Mental health wise. Asking for proof of emails id apparently sent and saying I needed the proof I case I’d had a psychotic breakdown and I didn’t know . I was genuinely being nice I wasn’t demanding or accusing anyone but I was panicking and just needed their help to show me what they said I’d sent.

Then I got told to stop spiraling that it was my fault for not understanding emails meant texts from 6 months ago and was confused as to why it was being talked about now. But if I ask what’s happened I get dismissed

I feel like anything I do is blamed on my health and misunderstandings are all my fault.


If I ever say anything that anyone normal would say it’s like it’s used against me

I was kind and genuinely nice and polite. Just panicking. Anytime there is a misunderstanding I’m blamed for my totally normal reaction or what I think is normal anyway.

 

[Movingforward10]

Who are those people who gaslight you like that? Do you need to remain in a relationship with them or can you limit these conversations with them?

 

[FMCA]

Hi, I am going to limit my interactions with them. It’s one of my kids and he was apparently referring to messages ( not emails ) that I had sent 6 months ago when I wasn’t well and because of a different situation at that time I reasonably assumed that he knew at that time.

So 6 months later under the impression they all knew I then gets told I sent emails and I panicked and then got told by his partner I could be taken to see a psychiatrist and there was no conspiracy going on? I said I don’t think there is a conspiracy love I just need to know the dates of the emails.

Yes I was panicking thinking I was going mad but I was completely respectful and nice. I wasn’t kicking off or anything like that!

It nearly gave me a heart attack! It’s took a lot of hard work to get to the point I’m at now in the last 6 months and at the end of the messages he said see this is why people don’t want to talk to you. I was completely respectful and nice considering it was made out I thought there was a conspiracy going on.

I appreciate that me sending messages at Xmas when I wasn’t well is what started all this and I have worked really hard in the last 6 months to get better.

my kids share information between themselves and I have no idea what gets said and when . No one has a conversation with me and I’m left fumbling around in the dark trying to work things out.

It is a fractured relationship between me and my family and now I get told I’m over reacting, that I need to see a psychiatrist and reassured there is no conspiracy going on? I still did not kick off and just said I know that but I need to know when the emails were sent. I was practically begging!

I’ve archived my son and his partner’s messages now reasoning that if something is that important they will find a way to contact me.

I told them that if people were just straight about things then misunderstandings would not happen. Sometimes it does feel and not for the first time like I’m being set up.

But to be told there’s no conspiracy going on and that if I feel like this ie panicking they could give me a lift to a psychiatrist is gas lighting and I’ve had enough of it hence me archiving their messages.

I don’t think I will contact anyone again after yesterday it genuinely made me ill.