Fear Of Abandonment

[Lsquaredw]

I am nearly a month into my relationship with my boyfriend. I have never loved someone so much. I never knew it was possible for me to feel this way again.

He knows about the abuse that I suffered through for a year and a half in high school. I am still working through things (obviously). When I told him about it, I was actually expecting him to run the other way and leave me, but he didn't. He held me and told me that he loved me.

Even though he is so supportive, I am really scared that he is going to decide that he can't handle someone who is so messed up and leave me. I am kind of waiting for it to happen. I mean, I am pretty messed up.

I love him so much and he is what I need, and I am so scared that he is going to leave me. Are these even rational thoughts? How do I conquer these negative thoughts?

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I am sorry that is a bad place to be in.

Have you talked with anyone about how you are feeling? You don't want your fears to damage your relationship.

Take care. :)

 

[xCountryQueenx]

I'm going through the same thing with my boyfriend of five months - being a victim of sexual abuse is challenging.

It's always been hard for me to maintain a healthy, long - lasting relationship but now that I've really fallen in love - I am petrified of losing my boyfriend... I can completely relate to you.

I really do want to heal, I just don't know where to begin.

~Lauren Elizabeth

 

[Lucycat]

being a victim of sexual abuse is challenging.

I think this is something of an understatement!!

I too have spent a lot of time worried of losing my husband. The awful thoughts that I am 'not good enough' and he will find somebody better than me. I also remember telling him many years ago that I was 'second hand goods' for having been abused.

Pleased to say he has stuck by me and supported me through it all. We have just celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary.