Feel Like I Shouldn't Be Here

[jesse]

Hey just wanted to thank all the good people here for the insight and support. Everytime I click on the homepage it says something about how it's time to leave the forum. I read it and understood what it said but now I feel that there is something wrong with me for wanting to be here and that I should leave. Thanks again to all the kind folks.
Jesse

 

[anni]

I Being here is of course a personal choice so if it's time to leave, all the best to you, most sincerely!

I assure you there's nothing wrong with you for wishing to be here. When I first joined, that article gave me some guilt, since I thought perhaps I was fooling myself, and wasn't working hard enough, or processing enough, or maybe wasn't even fragile enough to be here. It's our PTSD reactivity telling us these things. If you really do read this, it's only saying there's a guideline one can follow if one wishes to know for your own information-not anyone 'telling you' to go. I haven't re-read it recently, since I'm not glued together all that well at the moment and know for a fact I'll read it through PTSD eyes, not seeing what it 'really' says, you know? When I'm better, the whole thing will sound so different to me it won't even seem like the same article. Wierd.

If you do need to go, please take care, but if you need to be here for the healing please know I don't think anyone's wishing you to do so.

All the best,

Anni

 

[Jade-]

Every time I see "when is the right time to leave the forum", I feel like it's speaking to me. And then when I see "it's time" on the brick wall, I hesitate to log in.

I keep coming back because I feel a connection to others. This is a place where I don't feel so much like an outsider. I don't always feel like I fit in, but I don't always feel like I don't either.

I am beginning to learn to not be here when I'm in a bad state(I'm obviously a slow learner on that one though). I'm learning which threads to read or not read or I will be triggered. I'm learning to respect other people's opinions , differences and I'm realizing that people actually can and do care and accept me just as I am.

Alot of the time, this place is more destructive than helpful for me. When it becomes completely destructive, then I will leave completely.

 

[lovinbiker]

I read it and understood what it said but now I feel that there is something wrong with me for wanting to be here and that I should leave.

Hi jesse I dont think theres anything wrong with wanting to be here.
I too have thought about when I should leave but in all honesty I dont think I will ever leave totally maybe just cut down how much time I spend here.

I think as long as someone wants to be here and/or is getting some benefit out of here then they should stay.
I think both anni and jade made good points in that respect.
LB

 

[AdamAnt]

I think the idea is that that image isn't a very welcoming first thing to see when coming to a site...I felt that too on a vague level and I don't have PTSD!

 

[seedling]

It also says that trauma therapy is 6 - 12 months. But, the amount of therapy can also depend on how often a person goes. Or maybe some of the therapy isn't directed at the trauma per se, but at other preliminary issues.

Don't worry, be happy:)

I think the main message is to not let it be a crutch to be on here, to get on with life if that's what's needed. That's going to be different for everyone. I also appreciate input from people who have been around a while who stop in to give their two cents. It adds a lot of substance to the forum.

 

[lovinbiker]

Don't worry, be happy:)

Well said isnt that the lyrics to a song, and indeed a good motto for life. Well said seedling :)
LB

 

[intothelight]

I agree with Adam, as that article should probably not be the first thing people see when they come to the site. The message that can be construed, is not the intent of the article at all.

 

[Trinomial]

I never bothered reading it, because I pretty much just got here. I'd like to get to know people and talk things out for a while, before I think about leaving. :)

 

[LeoTheLion]

I agree with Adam and intothelight the article shouldnt be at first page. It makes me feel like shoo shoo go away!
But I bookmark direct to the forum instead of homepage. I go homepage only when I want to read the article I find it helpful. Also Jesse you know we always will be here and your welcome to come back when your ready. Sometimes take a good break can be helpful too. Whenever your ready to come back you know where to find it

 

[just me here]

Ok, I think we all feel a little guilt for seeking help with a problem that society has taught us to beleive we should handle on our own. I personally think just seeking help for our problems makes us above average people, and I can't understand why anyone would ever want to stop being above average.

I haven't read the article, I probably won't. I just have a strong opinion that more people would lead happier and more productive lives if they could get past their own fear of seeking help and the social stigma that comes with it.

I am sure there is value in knowing when to stop, but there is much more value in knowing when to start, and that it's ok to seek help, as much and as long as you need.

 

[anni]

That's rather staggeringly good, RJ. Good Grief.