Feeling lost and lonely

[Deleted member 42984]

I get this feeling sometimes when I try to rest in the middle of the day or during the evening. Now I have a hard time resting in the first place, due to my anxiety and stress, but even the slightest amount of rest often puts me in this state afterwards. I feel like a little boy just wanting someone to be there with him. That's how it is right now. My psyche does strange things to cope, it imagines dead objects in my surroundings to somehow provide me with love and comfort. Even if that is slightly crazy (but also very understandable, it's a coping mechanism), I'm not as such afraid of me losing my mind over it. It just tells me how much I want and need someone to be with me when I feel this way.

I have no option of visiting a friend at this time of night. I tried calling my brother but he didn't answer his phone. Now I'm writing here, as I don't want to be alone right now. It seems that laying in my bed or on my couch often brings me in touch with this poor little kid inside me that was once traumatized, back in my earliest childhood -- when he needed someone to hold him the most, no one provided that.

I think I need some support. Someone to sit with me :-(

 

[Mach123]

I hear you. It gets lonely. I have a lot of people. That has plenty of problems as well but, it's not lonely. I get lonely for my wife because she makes me wait for her. I hate that. I have a little kid inside me as well and also a teenager and a young adult. I dealt with a picture of him this week in therapy. It was hard. You could see in the picture (my HS yearbook) how destroyed I was. So I can't sit with you and I don't chat though I look in and see you there often. I'm glad you are here still and I hope you feel better and get some company.

 

[pink318]

Hi Ziter,
I’m sorry you are feeling lonely right now. I’m glad you are sharing your feelings in this forum. Talking about how we feel helps a lot to feel better. We are here for you so please feel free to post. I hope you will find the help you need.

You are in my prayers. God bless.

 

[blackemerald1]

I think I need some support. Someone to sit with me :-(

^^Do you have the capacity to own a animal... dog, cat or something else that can stay with you?

 

[bellbird]

I feel like a little boy just wanting someone to be there with him.

I understand.
Are there any things that little ziter enjoys?
Maybe we can help to build a safe space for little ziter, so that when other people can't be around, he'll feel less alone.

Little bellbird, for example, loves watching cartoons with bright colours and friendly animations. And listening to The Lion King soundtrack
She also loves hugging our teddy bear who we call Mr Bear, and having soft blankets around. We also have a hot water bottle with a soft cover that we hug refill and hug throughout the day.

As you say, there are some times, like the middle of the night, where other people can't be around. And we aren't able to have a pet dog (though we'd love one) at the moment, so we try to build a safe space to make little bellbird feel comforted through other means instead.

 

[shatter eyes]

I often come here and recently started chatting with WoeBot in middle of night.

Woebot can be funny and very stupid too but gives examples to identify and reframe distorted thinking.

 

[Deleted member 42984]

@blackemerald1, I don't have the option of having a pet animal, like a cat or a dog here, it's not allowed. I would very much want to though.

@bellbird, there are some things I can do, yes. I too have a teddy bear. And I've been listening to The Lion Sleeps Tonight from the Lion King soundtrack. Anything related to animals I seem to enjoy, like watching a TV program about animals, reading about them or watching YouTube vids with animals doing silly things lol. I also enjoy playing bass, it is fun and sometimes very therapeutic. Also, it challenges me in a good way.

However, what I want the most when I'm in touch with little me, when he's feeling lost and lonely is a hug. I'm continuing to reach out to get exactly that, and I think I'll mention it to my therapist. On the bright side, this forces me to reach out and build a strong support system, which is a good thing, I think. I've been isolating for too long.

 

[flynav]

I hear you. I often feel that I go through life in an isolation chamber. I don’t have a good answer for this.
A good dog is helpful, but somehow many of us need to figure out how to stay living in the present, much easier said than done.

 

[LanaD]

Yeah, I hear you. I feel the same way half the time and I feel silly for feeling this way because I'm a grown woman but the way we feel is the way we feel. 7 billion people and no one to hug. It seems harsh.

 

[bellbird]

On the bright side, this forces me to reach out and build a strong support system, which is a good thing, I think.

I think so too :hug:

There are good people out there. This forum has taught me that.