ashdawn8287
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My fiancee just had a pretty invasive surgery. He is not well with pain and is stubborn when it comes to taking medication. I have to fight with him to take the medications he is suppose to take. But I don't mind because I love him so much.
We celebrated my birthday last night. He got me a pair of diamond earrings and I got mad at him for it. He is a jeweler so it is like his go to gift. Plus I don't really like jewelry or like being flashy and on top of that I don't believe in how diamonds are mined. It's a conflict to me that bothers me.
I feel bad for getting mad, I mean I didn't yell or anything, but I did not get the reaction he was hoping for. I told him the thought was nice and i LOVED the card (he got me a wife card!), and he got me a gift certificate for coffee because I LOVE coffee. He got hurt pretty bad by it, and finally I figured out how to word what I was trying to say.
I said I loved how much he planned it, how excited he was to give it to me, and I will wear them just because of that. But I also let him know don't buy me lots of jewelry just because he is a jeweler because I don't need that stuff. I don't want that stuff. Cards are more important to me and it's hard for him to understand that.
Okay, so his surgery. I spent a lot of time with his Mom for the first time where it was just us. We got along great and really bonded. She is a great women. She raised an amazing son. I got over my anxiety issues I have with parents and just acted myself. She was there mainly for me she said. I thought that was nice.
He came out of surgery and they brought us back to see him. Oh my lord did he look like he had been beat! I felt completely helpless in that situation and knew I had to put my issues and anxiety away for him and I did it gracefully. I got him relaxed and his blood pressure down.
We spent 2 hours in the recovery and he was just absolutely miserable. He had surgery on his sinuses and ear. It was a painfully invasive surgery. He is really grouchy and I understand, because I just had surgery a few months back. I got super prepared for it too! And I have all his contacts and people around me, which is really great. I feel bad he can't rely on my family like this.
I guess I just needed to get this out off my chest. Because it was a painfully long day and I am so glad he is at home and sleeping! I could honestly use some encouragement and kind words. It wasn't bad or anything. I just don't want to bottle stressful stuff up and seeing my love like that was stressful to me! It's like I know he is going to be okay but I just can't stop worrying about his recovery! It's driving me insane!
We celebrated my birthday last night. He got me a pair of diamond earrings and I got mad at him for it. He is a jeweler so it is like his go to gift. Plus I don't really like jewelry or like being flashy and on top of that I don't believe in how diamonds are mined. It's a conflict to me that bothers me.
I feel bad for getting mad, I mean I didn't yell or anything, but I did not get the reaction he was hoping for. I told him the thought was nice and i LOVED the card (he got me a wife card!), and he got me a gift certificate for coffee because I LOVE coffee. He got hurt pretty bad by it, and finally I figured out how to word what I was trying to say.
I said I loved how much he planned it, how excited he was to give it to me, and I will wear them just because of that. But I also let him know don't buy me lots of jewelry just because he is a jeweler because I don't need that stuff. I don't want that stuff. Cards are more important to me and it's hard for him to understand that.
Okay, so his surgery. I spent a lot of time with his Mom for the first time where it was just us. We got along great and really bonded. She is a great women. She raised an amazing son. I got over my anxiety issues I have with parents and just acted myself. She was there mainly for me she said. I thought that was nice.
He came out of surgery and they brought us back to see him. Oh my lord did he look like he had been beat! I felt completely helpless in that situation and knew I had to put my issues and anxiety away for him and I did it gracefully. I got him relaxed and his blood pressure down.
We spent 2 hours in the recovery and he was just absolutely miserable. He had surgery on his sinuses and ear. It was a painfully invasive surgery. He is really grouchy and I understand, because I just had surgery a few months back. I got super prepared for it too! And I have all his contacts and people around me, which is really great. I feel bad he can't rely on my family like this.
I guess I just needed to get this out off my chest. Because it was a painfully long day and I am so glad he is at home and sleeping! I could honestly use some encouragement and kind words. It wasn't bad or anything. I just don't want to bottle stressful stuff up and seeing my love like that was stressful to me! It's like I know he is going to be okay but I just can't stop worrying about his recovery! It's driving me insane!
