Finding A Therapist - Taking Back Ourselves

[Mach123]

This is good it comes off my therapists website.

Taking Back Ourselves

It is essential that you find a clinician who has experience working with the issues of sexual abuse.
Psychotherapy with survivors of sexual trauma is both an art and a skill that creates empowerment and connection—not dependency. It is their task to facilitate you being a strong survivor, not a fragile victim, and do this with support and skill.
Recovery work with a therapist is a relationship based on earned trust, impeccable boundaries, and mutual respect. A psychotherapist must be both genuine and emotionally present. In the case of recovery from sexual violation, this could not be more essential. They must understand how to be engaged without letting their own feelings intrude on yours or for their own agenda to supersede your own. You need the safety to be vulnerable and in the truth. Previously, that might not have been possible. So, you and the therapist may not always agree. In fact, if you have a good relationship, it will be important that you are free enough to disagree, or question, or simply say “no.”

I don't agree with her about everything. I also don't think anyone else could possibly have helped me as much as she has.

I feel like the same way I do when people say find a church like it'd be easy, it's not.

If I believe in anything though, about all this, meaning CSA and recovery, I believe in her and what she's doing.

I can't go to the weekends though, lol her life's work. I'd rather die. : )

 

[susannahsays]

I don't particularly like the wording that stigmatizes being a victim. I don't know why someone can't be a CSA victim and also strong. In fact, why can't someone be survivor, victim, strong, and fragile all rolled into one?

Sorry for going off on a tangent, but I just get so sick of reading about how people who experienced CSA are characterized. I find it maddening that it seems like everyone - the general public, fellow people who have experienced CSA, and mental health professionals all have these opinions on how we're f*cking survivors not victims and booya.

 

[Mach123]

Nah you are fine lol. I just hope everyone gets help? I feel I was helped by my therapist and I see lots of people who can't get help. I don't do everything they say, nothing is perfect. You have a good attitude. I have it too, sometimes. : )