I also relate much better to men it would seem, though the reality is that I've really only worked long term with them, both with my primary T and my current psychiatrist. But in all relationships in my life I seem to somehow connect better with men in most instances, and can't imagine it being any different.
I had to laugh at Cat's comment about the patient impersonating the T. I recall seeing my first ever psychiatrist and what a crazy, dysfunctional, just plain scarey individual he turned out to be. For a number of reasons my T actually attended this initial appointment with me. Midway through the session I was feeling close to panic and horror with the absurdity of this man and wondering if this was really what psychiatrists were like, and if so, how on earth could I ever dare to be alone with one...
Suddenly the guy wandered out of the room to "get a drink of water" (something which seemed odd in itself) and as the dor closed, there was a moment of pained silence between T and I while I hopelessly wondered what, if anything, to say, before he leaned over and whispered to me, "I think this is actually a crazy patient who has locked the real doctor in the cupboard and hidden the key..."
I laughed out loud, such was the tension relief at the realisation that I wasn't alone in feeling the way I did. Needless to say I never went back.
I am truly sorry for your experience Tphillips and don't mean to make light of it. Sheesh, that guy sounded too ridiculous and offensive to be true, it never ceases to scare me that such people are still out there taking money from people.
I really hope that this week will hold the right fit for you, you deserve it.
Maddog
