Hi, I'm not sure what to say, and I'm not exactly sure if I actually have PTSD but I think I might. I have trouble talking about things. I am engaged to a great guy, but it is hard to talk about things with him because I feel like he doesn't understand. I'd like to talk to people possibly who can help me with how I'm feeling. I want to go to therapy but I'm really scared. The biggest reason I'm trying to do this is because I feel like my depression is putting a strain on my relationship and I don't want that at all.
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nursenurse
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The bigger strain will be your untreated depression, especially now that you have acknowledged that you need help.
You do not mention anything much about your trauma, or PTSD. To receive the help you need, you need to see a professional for the diagnosis. We are not diagnosticians here, but can only encourage you along the way.
Go for help, be honest with your partner about the need. If he objects to you trying to help yourself, then there really isn't much of a relationship.
Good luck.
You do not mention anything much about your trauma, or PTSD. To receive the help you need, you need to see a professional for the diagnosis. We are not diagnosticians here, but can only encourage you along the way.
Go for help, be honest with your partner about the need. If he objects to you trying to help yourself, then there really isn't much of a relationship.
Good luck.
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The therapist is really a good idea. You don't have to have a "disorder" to feel out of control. And therapists are really great with helping you determine which applied to you and helping you get handles on those that apply.
Another thing that you might want to think about is that PTSD is based around anxiety. Anxiety is different than depression. You should study the 2 terms. My wife had always been told that she was depressed and was continuously mis-diagnosed until she studied up on them.
We are glad you found this forum!
Bear
Another thing that you might want to think about is that PTSD is based around anxiety. Anxiety is different than depression. You should study the 2 terms. My wife had always been told that she was depressed and was continuously mis-diagnosed until she studied up on them.
We are glad you found this forum!
Bear
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I have never had a diagnosis, but I am a very anxious person and I have panic attacks and heart palpitations because of the anxiety fairly often. I did have childhood trauma and I only remember very little of it. I remember recognizing how anxious and depressed I felt when I was about 12 years old. My fiance encourages me to get help but like I said before, I'm really scared to. So I was thinking talking to people other than my fiance would help. Both of my close friends know some about the trauma in my life but I don't feel comfortable talking to them much about it yet. I am hoping talking on the internet to people will help me talk in person to people.[DOUBLEPOST=1403719311,1403719167][/DOUBLEPOST]Also, I am wondering if anyone knows about other forums that aren't for PTSD? I have thought I might have PTSD for awhile now but I don't want to claim I have it if I don't, you know?
Don't be afraid to get help, it can make a tremendous difference in your life. You wouldn't feel bad about fixing a leaky pipe would you? Same concept. I was scared too at first; scared that going to get therapy meant something bad about me. But it doesn't. :hug:
As for other forums.. well, there's psychcentral, which has forums for everything, but I didn't like it there. I got a very cold reception from that place, and alot of the forums seemed filled with.. I don't know what to call it, but it was chaotic. This place is much better moderated.
As for other forums.. well, there's psychcentral, which has forums for everything, but I didn't like it there. I got a very cold reception from that place, and alot of the forums seemed filled with.. I don't know what to call it, but it was chaotic. This place is much better moderated.
Welcome to the forum.
I can relate a little. My partner urged me for years to go to therapy. I eventually started but quit after 2 sessions. Then I was really triggered last year when I had my 1st baby. I couldn't hide from it anymore and my GP referred me with postnatal depression initially.
Therapy is a really good place to start but make sure you do your research as it can be hard to find a good trauma therapist. It is really scary but this is your life and you deserve the optimum from it.
I finally realised I'd had my childhood stolen from me. Why should I continue to let it rob my present life too?
Wishing you the very best
I can relate a little. My partner urged me for years to go to therapy. I eventually started but quit after 2 sessions. Then I was really triggered last year when I had my 1st baby. I couldn't hide from it anymore and my GP referred me with postnatal depression initially.
Therapy is a really good place to start but make sure you do your research as it can be hard to find a good trauma therapist. It is really scary but this is your life and you deserve the optimum from it.
I finally realised I'd had my childhood stolen from me. Why should I continue to let it rob my present life too?
Wishing you the very best
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Wow yeah that makes a lot of sense to me about not letting what happened in my childhood take away from my life now.[DOUBLEPOST=1403721200,1403721107][/DOUBLEPOST]
It seems like everyone is scared at first so I'm glad I'm not alone with that. I just checked out psychcentral a little bit ago and I got the same vibe. Thanks for your help!
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Firstly a warm :hug: and welcome to the Myptsd family. Well that is what I have come to refer to this place in the last year.
Primary concern now for you is to make an appointment and be honest with the drs. Tell them as it is. You suspect that you are suffering and that may be true. Only a dr who recognises PTSD can diagnose you as @nursenurse very rightly says, no one here is qualified to do that.
We are an extremely supportive forum who understand where you have come from with trauma, where you are at the moment with your uncertainty about current position pre diagnosis. We are all at different stage in our personal recovery journey with PTSD.
Take time to look through the forum and the article from many members.
Sending :hug:s if you accept them.
Laurie
Primary concern now for you is to make an appointment and be honest with the drs. Tell them as it is. You suspect that you are suffering and that may be true. Only a dr who recognises PTSD can diagnose you as @nursenurse very rightly says, no one here is qualified to do that.
We are an extremely supportive forum who understand where you have come from with trauma, where you are at the moment with your uncertainty about current position pre diagnosis. We are all at different stage in our personal recovery journey with PTSD.
Take time to look through the forum and the article from many members.
Sending :hug:s if you accept them.
Laurie
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Welcome to the forum. :)
Welcome.
You are not alone in being afraid of going to therapy. It took me 20 years to believe that my life was stable enough for me to venture into my childhood issues. To my first appointment I took a note which apologised for not staying and said that she should contact my husband for payment....I did this because I fully expected to not cope and have to leave within 2 minutes of arriving. My entire goal for the first appointment was just to turn up and walk through the door. Twenty years prior (when I first tried to go) I never even made it into the building.
You are not alone in being afraid of going to therapy. It took me 20 years to believe that my life was stable enough for me to venture into my childhood issues. To my first appointment I took a note which apologised for not staying and said that she should contact my husband for payment....I did this because I fully expected to not cope and have to leave within 2 minutes of arriving. My entire goal for the first appointment was just to turn up and walk through the door. Twenty years prior (when I first tried to go) I never even made it into the building.
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Welcome to the forum!
Therapy can be scary, but sometimes what a person "thinks" it will be like is worse than it ever is. When I started therapy, I viewed my therapist as a resource that would provide me with the information and tools that I needed to help myself. It was changing my own perception that made it easier.
Also, a good therapist will work with you in acquiring the tools needed to handle the more difficult aspects of therapy. They shouldn't have you just dive right into trauma processing without making sure you are equipped to handle it.
Therapy can be scary, but sometimes what a person "thinks" it will be like is worse than it ever is. When I started therapy, I viewed my therapist as a resource that would provide me with the information and tools that I needed to help myself. It was changing my own perception that made it easier.
Also, a good therapist will work with you in acquiring the tools needed to handle the more difficult aspects of therapy. They shouldn't have you just dive right into trauma processing without making sure you are equipped to handle it.
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