Genital Surgery: Ever Heard Of Hypospadias?

[stillstanding2]

I have been involved in professional/parent discussions about whether the conditions should be treated as an infant or wait for the child to be old enough to consent.

If you read @Mit's post, you know that by getting surgery for his son has probably prevented the kinds of surgical and psychological trauma we both have had. See our posts also in "Botched Circumcision" where both of us told our stories.

In my case at least having surgeries at ages 7 and 13 may have been the only option, since pediatric genital surgery was all but unheard of, except for circumcision. It was also a fact that my parents were poor and couldn't afford treatment for me.

With huge advances in medicine, microsurgery, and therapy for trauma, it might be less risky for older boys and men to have later surgeries. But the psychological damage can begin at potty training. Mit's his son is not only "repaired" but also informed, such that he can feel the wonders of being "normal", and perhaps be spared the horrors that we encountered.

I'm against any kind of "cosmetic" surgery. But I'm all for ensuring the most psychological security available for children. I think parents who opt to defer a decision like this to their child are cowards, or even abusers.

Thanks for writing. If this post attract any more interest, your input will be priceless.

 

[stillstanding2]

No my friend you haven't talked to mush to soon.. This was exactly the right time and the right place to...

Hah! And I'll bet you do Delila perfectly! It will all get done, and it is wonderful that your daughter is helping. Sharing a project can do so much good!

 

[Nikie]

The story should have ended happily ever after there. But sadly the maladaptive coping strategy I had evolved as a teenager and had continued in secret throughout my adult life caused a huge trauma five years ago, and I very nearly lost everything. I was then forced to disclose the nature of my problems in the cruellest and profoundly humiliating way. This second trauma, added to my childhood experiences was too much, and after an unsuccessful suicide attempt I finally reached out for professional help.

I feel this is a very important point of discussion. Sometimes men feel that they have to just cope and get over it.. What exactly made you pack up.. ? I missed the second trouma .. Sorry for asking ? But if eel like it Mit will you tell us more about this part ... Only if you feel save to do so. Or many you have told it on another thread .. I will gladly read it if you sent a link
:hug: ' s thanks for joining in.. :)

 

[stillstanding2]

Sometimes men feel that they have to just cope and get over it.

How 'bout this Mit! She "gets it."

 

[Ronin]

I've seen at least 4 trans gender ish individuals posting here ( all born with female bits).

If I may?
Please do not. Identifying other people as trans without them mentioning it, and labeling people's bodies (or genitals) without their expressed consent and invitation to be labeled that way, is considered bad ethiquette, and can often put people in danger. Thank you.

 

[stillstanding2]

If I may?
Please do not. Identifying other people as trans without them mentioning it, and labeling people...

Thanks. We've not mentioned anyone's name or body part other than our own and I certainly don't plan to. But are you referring to me as too-many-comments? I know I have been returning any messages and wrote a lot of introductory stuff, but I thought I was clear in my purpose. If I'm wrong, I need to know.

 

[Anarchy]

Thanks, just to clarify, it was as an invitation for any trans people who wanted to, to contribute on the basis of their reclaiming their bodies as their own.

There's no intention to tag or to out anyone.

 

[Ronin]

@stillstanding2, it's fine, I was quoting Anarchy about a thing I noticed specifically Anarchy doing in regards to a sub-section of this subject where more carefulness may be helpful, not talking about anyone else :)

And no, I wouldn't police people's right to speak that way, nor would I have these kinds of reminders publicly. No worries :) What I meant in that other thread was that I'm still having difficulties articulating many subtleties going into sex / gender / enforced both / body modifications & differences in types of abuse about bodies, in that area and I need to find a way to spit it out, personally, not that anyone else's take on their lives is any flavor of disagreeable.

 

[Ronin]

There's no intention to tag or to out anyone.

Thank you for clarification on both intent & awareness, Anarchy. ;)

 

[stillstanding2]

@stillstanding2, it's fine, I was quoting Anarchy about a thing I noticed specifically...

Thanks Cashew. By the way, I know a great forum you might use in sorting out what you mentioned! Take care, and thanks again.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

This week I have, by accident, virtually taken over another's thread called "Botched circumcision...

Im not a guy or anything so cant relate but i thought id throw this in. Someone invented a device to grow forskin back. Im thinking that cant feel too good but hey, to each his own.

 

[stillstanding2]

There's no intention to tag or to out anyone.

Hell no! And we, of all people, know how to keep secrets!