Genital Surgery: Ever Heard Of Hypospadias?

[stillstanding2]

Sorry if this is TMI

The will never be TMI as long as anyone allows a knife close to their genitals for purely "cosmetic" reasons.

 

[Anarchy]

Hi @lostforgottensoul
Hugs if you'll accept them. I had read a little of your diary. What was done to you was appalling.

I've just written in my diary about people being forced into fitting the procrustean bed of some arbitrary mental construct or other.

I've never in my life heard a male make an adverse comment about a woman's external genitalia.

Favourable comments, yes. Never unfavourable.

I have heard a handfull of women make adverse comments about individuals of both sexes.

My personal prejudice here. If I like someone and they also like me enough for me to get to meet that area of them, I'm going to like what I find.

I think that to be " disappointed" or critical, as some of the females said that they were ( they were talking about other people, I've never had unfavourable comment to my face) is an extreme display of shallowness.

OK, I think one might have been trying to flatter me. If she was, the tactic backfired on her badly.
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Are you able to buy different shaped or styled clothes? support cushions if you have to use an office chair? A different seat for your bike etc? Make clothing fit you, rather than chopping you to fit clothes.

I started an anonymous thread asking about foreskin restoration (anon for the benefit of commenters, I posted my posting name in it)

A female commentor mentioned as an aside, needing to tuck hers out of harm's way, before going cycling. I can set things rolling again asking for ideas for everyday comfort. That way, none of the subsequent comments that might appear can be attributed to you or anyone else.

I get possessive about keeping intact sets of junk, intact. Even when I'm not likely to ever meet the individual who they belong to.
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Foreskin restoration thread has been added to, so future postings will not be attributable.

 

[stillstanding2]

I have been involved in professional/parent discussions about whether the conditions should be treated as an infant or wait for the child to be old enough to consent

@Lucycat, I second @Mit's appreciation of your help. His and my experiences with hypospadias and surgeries for it are quite similar, though he had more surgeries. We both as children had to deal with societal and medical ignorance and cruelty. And as adults, we have had to endure our own secret miseries.

If you are helping parents and children with hypospadais, chordee, epispadais or other hidden anomalies, you are probably saving lives. Please feel welcome in helping to expose these issues. The hush-hush of the past has to end. That's why I outed myself. I have nothing to lose by talkng here, nor should anyone else.

 

[Anarchy]

Picking up on what was posted earlier about little boys standing side by side, peeing against a urinal...

Although physically I could have ( I could tell which of my little classmates had been mutilated as babies, by the way that they stood at the urinal)

I felt crippling shame and shyness. I remember several times being grabbed by a "dinner lady" plonked down by the urinal and my trousers and undies pulled down to my ankles.
One of those times was after a gaggle of older girls had caught me peeing behind the gardeners shed, and had gleefully dragged me to the "dinner lady" to snitch.

The anxiety came via the cultural expectation that little boys should stand in a line exposing themselves to each other...

 

[lostforgottensoul]

The will never be TMI as long as anyone allows a knife close to their genitals for purely "cosmetic" reasons.

Indeed! Though i sound like a hypocrite, its not for cosmetic reasons...

 

[stillstanding2]

A female commentor mentioned as an aside, needing to tuck hers out of harm's way, before going cycling.

I think one solution here would be a slotted bike seat. Not a new idea, since the old U.S. Cavalry saddles were made that way for male protection.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I think one solution here would be a slotted bike seat. Not a new idea, since the old U.S. Caval...

My issue too, didnt wanna be THAT TMI about it lol. It hurts even w/ just underwear. So thats the only reason i thought about it but its expensive.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Tho i cant believe a lady said "tuck it away" and its not THAT bad lol

 

[Anarchy]

I was paraphrasing, it's not exactly what she wrote.

I've given the thread a bump up, so it should be easy enough to find, and hopefully she'll take another look.

It's in the PTSD anonymous forum.

its not THAT bad lol

bad female parts, is an oxymoron IMO, whatever their proportions :hug:

 

[stillstanding2]

I've never in my life heard a male make an adverse comment about a woman's external genitalia.

Same here! We love lilies of every variety. Color, shape, size and detail. They are all hypnotic in their diversity, and deserve close attention.

There are legitimate medical reasons for modifying some parts, but appearance is not one of them. Let flowers be natural. Women may be "trendy" in the clothes they choose, their make-up if they think they need it, and their hairstyles both above and below.

But permanently removing pleasure nerves out of vanity is flatly perverted. And any man who encourages that is an immature brute.

On the male side, I actually read in a popular magazine, a woman bragging (with support from others) that she had insisted that her daughters never marry a man UNLESS he was circumcized! One of her sons-in-laws actually had it done!

OK, I think one might have been trying to flatter me. If she was, the tactic backfired on her badly.

Why was that? Could it have been that your perception of her "flattery" was in your imagination, maybe? Though I was horrified of it, I had few criticisms one way or the other as far as appearance was concerned.

My wife used to tell me, and I finally accepted, that to her my scars were "exotic" and sexy.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

bad female parts, is an oxymoron IMO, whatever their proportions

Lol, but isnt that EVERY guy's opinion?

Nah, though i think i look 'abnormal' but ive never had any "complaints"...no guys has ever mentioned it...it just hurts at times; like when i went to go get out of my car; i look rather funny trying to 'untangle' my underwear :confused:

Guys seem to love a few other things so i think they just ignore that lol. Sorry, trying so hard not to get too TMI about it all.

 

[Anarchy]

The comments were complicated.

It was a gf from several years before, disparaging a guy who we had each had a fling with. She was commenting unfavourably about his size, with the unspoken implication that she was favouring my junk.

It simply made me determined that I would enjoy her company, but no one was going near anyone's junk that weekend.

I gather that at least one ex Mr Madonna got it done to please her. His choice.

Getting it done to please a mother in law! I think a woman insisting on behalf of her mother needs to get a therapist. It's not the mother in law who'll get the chafing and cystitis...