Sufferer Getting triggered a lot lately

[JustMeee]

I have cptsd. Most of the time it's under control, or at least it used to be. But I'm getting triggered a LOT lately but something/things others would consider really stupid. I keep looking for a good chat, but haven't found any. I have no one else to talk to, at all. Don't suggest going to "family", not going to happen.

I wasn't sure which topic/room to place anything under, but my biggest triggers are my roommate and my dog, believe it or not. I've raised him to be my service dog, do everything for him, but he keeps showing me he likes my roommate better and that turns into a MAJOR trigger. Yes I tried what few trainers are in the area, they tell me on the phone they can help, then in person they say they can't because they just train - geez, I can train the stupid dog, that's not what I asked for help with! And my budget was limited being on Disability, so that just adds to triggers. Oh, so much more regarding dog getting to me.

And not even count that, just so much going on. Had to move and now encountering other triggers that I thought i left behind. So more and more, atm, so i'm just taking more meds so i can just sleep all day because my experience says no one wants to hear it unless there's something in it for them.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but it's a bad time. I really do hope you all have a really great and amazing week.

 

[In the weeds]

Sorry you are through so that. I'm sure you will find support on this board.
I hope you have a good day today with no triggers.

 

[parrotthepolly]

Triggers are completely different for everyone so no need to feel "stupid". A lot of people think this way ...

Some of the stuff you described like limited disability payments are probably stressors unless it bring you flashbacks to when the trauma happened.

 

[WinnieThePoohChris]

Welcome.
Don't have many words today, had a thought, maybe your dog is picking up on your stress. Not liking someone more, reacting, is there anything you like to do together, maybe something to reconnect?

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

 

[arfie]

hello justmee. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

my own flashbacks don't run on my awesome IQ and they tend to daisy chain and run on themes. one flashback leads to another. my dogs are among the themes they have run. don't mess with my dogs. i'm a might hypersensitive on that theme.

i subscribe to the adrenaline addiction theories. i am a recovering adrenaline junkie and once i worry my way to the first adrenaline rush, i will keep feeding the worry to amp up my adrenaline supply. these days i do a detox diet to get the adrenaline out of my system before i worry the trigger over much.

but that is me and theories abound.

steadying support while you sort your own case. welcome aboard.

 

[Friday]

Aloha!

Two of the reasons you might be fighting a losing battle? The difference between triggers & stressors, and the effects/difference between triggers & stress.

I was a zillion times a PRO at dealing with triggers, so stress & stressors? (Same end result, symptom uptick to symptom dropkick) but different ways of managing them / cutting them off at the knee…. Blew my mind. Oh. This. THIS??? This simple. Okay. Let’s try this!

So check this shit out, seriously.

The ptsd cup explanation

Mar 10, 2018

Nearly a decade ago (2006) I wrote The PTSD Cup Explanation, a simple view of how PTSD causes symptoms in day-to-day life. This article is an update to that original piece.

Regardless of the type of trauma endured, the PTSD Cup does not change, deviate or apply differently to your circumstance. The PTSD Cup is a basic representation of your capacity for tolerating stressors. As your cup fills, symptoms get worse. When your cup overflows, you may break down crying, become psychotic or manic, attempt to kill yourself, and many other possible outcomes.

The differences unique to each...

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Stressor vs. Trigger - What Is A Trigger?

Feb 12, 2010

Whilst I do not engage most conversations here nowadays, I have been reading this word "trigger" get thrown about more and more over the past months, most of which I found to be completely incorrect for what a trigger actually is. It has gotten to a point where I feel members are getting way off track on what's really occurring within their own life to the point that trigger is being used so carelessly, as to what I can only construed as an excuse for their actions or an excuse to not do something that makes them anxious.

Most of what I read when trigger is used, the person is actually...

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[JustMeee]

I find that offensive for others to insinuate like that that I must be an idiot because of this whole trigger/stressors junk.
I came looking for help and like minded people to talk to, not to be put down and have it indicated to me that I don't even know what I'm talking about.
You don't know me... at all. You have know idea what i've been through. You think that little of me based on only ONE independent example of a current situation that is triggering, YES, triggering. You would understand that to the be case if you had bothered to ask any questions or exhibited an ounce of empathy anywhere instead of TELLING ME HOW I'M FEELING OR NOT FEELING OR WHEN I'M STRESSED VS TRIGGERED.

I seriously hope some real and kind person can help me find a better place than this that can do some real good for CPTSD.

Thanks for making it worse by making me realize NO ONE is ever going to help me or even just be there to just talk.... you've demonstrated people will only ever DICTATE to people like me who really and sincerely struggle.

To the rest, have a good day.

 

[Rose White]

@JustMeee it’s not insinuating anything, just offering a different perspective. Sometimes a shift in mindset helps with symptoms. You are the expert on your own life—people are just sharing what worked for them in the hope it might be useful for you. Not helpful? Just ignore.

 

[Sideways]

Mod Note:

I find that offensive for others to insinuate like that that I must be an idiot because of this whole trigger/stressors junk.

This is an international forum, where peers share info about what’s been helpful for them when dealing with PTSD. Some of that info you’ll find helpful, while some of it will potentially rub you the wrong way.

Here on the forum, a good mantra is “Take what’s helpful, leave the rest”.

 

[Friday]

I find that offensive for others to insinuate like that that I must be an idiot because of this whole trigger/stressors junk.
I came looking for help and like minded people to talk to, not to be put down and have it indicated to me that I don't even know what I'm talking about.
You don't know me... at all. You have know idea what i've been through. You think that little of me based on only ONE independent example of a current situation that is triggering, YES, triggering. You would understand that to the be case if you had bothered to ask any questions or exhibited an ounce of empathy anywhere instead of TELLING ME HOW I'M FEELING OR NOT FEELING OR WHEN I'M STRESSED VS TRIGGERED.

I shared what helped ME, what blew my mind.

I DONT know you. I have no idea what you know, or don’t know, or how smart/stupid you are, or what you think/feel… nor can I magically intuit any of that. All I did? Was share a snippet, in response to a snippet. Something that MIGHT be why. Badass links I would, and often do, kick to anyone struggling with triggers/stressors/stress. It’s a big damn site, with nearly 200,000 posts, millions of responses, and many many different forums & subforums. Link = Helpful. Not some sort of dastardly plot to insult you.

I told you NOTHING about you. But you’ve told me a whole helluva lot about you, in your assumptions, about what I “actually” meant. Which was entirely wrong, by the by. Go back & reread once you’ve cooled off.

Sharing what helps me, in the same type of situation, IS empathy.

Oh you poor thing, what can I do? Is sympathy.

I’m not your therapist. It’s not my job to hold your hand whilst figuring out the ways you like & respond to best. I’m a peer. Someone with PTSD who took time out of my day to read your post and respond to your Q’s. You don’t like my answer? Fine. PTSD ain’t a personality disorder, it’s one of many possible responses to Trauma, all KINDS of different people/personalities get PTSD. You don’t like mine? Scroll on. Find people you do connect with. No skin off my nose.



ETA… And just so there’s no confusion? The only emotion I’ve been feeling whilst reading/responding is mild amusement. You were THAT WRONG about my last post. Akin to hearing someone telling me my hair is made of broccoli, whilst dosed up on painkillers. They’re wrong. You know it. You also know why. So? You put the time in to read me the riot act, so it seemed only fair to respond with as much candor & attention to detail. I’m not pissed off, or hiding secret meaning, or hurt, or whatever. PTSD includes lashing out sometimes, and getting shit wrong, sometimes. Shrug. It happens.