Goal For The Day

[Abstract]

Argh... I am driving me crazy. Still nothing. Lobotomy please.

 

[ms spock]

Hi Ms Spock,

I think this is part of the core of the problem isn't it?

Thanks for your insight and kindness.

 

[Ayasha]

Argh... I am driving me crazy.

I think we all do this to ourselves. I have ADHD on top of my diagnosis of PTSD so I end up putting things off all the time...like my journal, for example.

One thing I've been learning is that I shouldn't set huge goals for myself. I know it sounds silly or that the goals you're making don't seem that big but the smaller you make your goals, the more you usually get done. I do it with homework all the time; I'll tell myself I'll read one page and then take a break but I often end up reading two or three or even the whole chapter. I don't know if this would work for everyone but maybe it will help?

 

[Britt.f7]

I bet your nieces and nephews loved that

I'm not sure if they did or not. A few of the parents thought it was pretty cool though. Especially because of the thought I put into it.

I would have liked a book with my name as one of the characters in it when I was younger. I actual found a book by the writer of Pippi Longstocking called "Britt Marie" and it is all in Swedish. It's very old but I love it because it is my name and because it is Swedish.

My boys always loved stories read to them, even when they could read. It makes sense that you get as much joy out of it as they do. :)

 

[ms spock]

I do think the positive focus is key. All the normal approaches backfire for me and make it worse. Being told to snap out of it makes me freeze solid.

Its a relief to at least hear others who are similar.

This is interesting. I thought that this is just me.

 

[ms spock]

Today I am going to stop making all these elaborate plans and being hard on myself and trying so hard and pushing myself. Sounds like a small goal. If I could do this on a daily basis I might stop being so frozen or dissociated and actually live a life.

 

[Abstract]

Ms Spock,
I started doing this about 2 years ago and it resulted in much more progress or change than anything else for me. My depressive symptoms decreased too. I really hope that is the case for you too. I am still bad but I was truly awful before that. All the books etc did the opposite of what they were supposed to. And people did not tend to understand that. Hugs if Ok.

Hi Ayesha,
Thanks! I very much like getting ideas from people as one learns so much and one never knows when something will be useful. Small goals are definitely better for me. Hence the minute goal of just opening the envelopes when I actually have a mass of work to do on the contents.:rolleyes: But sadly it seems almost any formal goal at all seems to backfire most of the time. I seem to do more without them and just meandering in that direction but obviously that is far from ideal. :( Now with this particular situation I don't have the luxury of approaching it in any way that is useful.

The pomadora technique is an version of that in a way. One decides on a time period. Lets say 5 minutes or 20 minutes. The goal is to just do something for that time period. The other one is using the 80/20 rule but that is a bit bigger. We take 20 % of the time period (that it takes to do it all) to do 80 % of the work. So therefore just aiming at starting means we get a lot done.

Sadly none of these gets me unstuck although I use aspects of them. I am much better than I was a year or two ago though so onwards and upwards. I am glad you have found a way that works for you!

It is now 4.11 and I have still done nothing. Going to try and give myself lots of compassion and affirmation and hope I can get going.

Hugs to all that needs them. :hug:

 

[ms spock]

Ms Spock,
I started doing this about 2 years ago and it resulted in much more progress or change than anything else for me. My depressive symptoms decreased too. I really hope that is the case for you too. I am still bad but I was truly awful before that. All the books etc did the opposite of what they were supposed to. And people did not tend to understand that. Hugs if Ok.

Thanks Abstract,

Pushing myself is counterproductive. I either freeze or go overboard and dissociate for long periods of time.

 

[Abstract]

(((Ms Spock))),
Snap. It really is a monumental pain and makes it very hard not to hate myself. Hearing you are like that too helps though. Sorry it is the case for you. My life is such a mess.

 

[ms spock]

My life is pretty messy too Abstract.

 

[Britt.f7]

My goal is to wrap some Santa gifts. Possibly take a nap. To not do anything that will make my illness worse so that I can go to my sister's without issue. Especially since I have to go there around the time I wind down.

 

[Changing4Best]

To get to the grocery store, which I have been putting off for days. It is raining and I have no car, nor do I drive, so I need to call a friend for a ride. I hate asking for rides! It makes me feel like a beggar or something. However, this one friend keeps offering me rides and telling me to call when I need one. The only thing is, is that she takes care of her sister who had a stroke and I feel guilty pulling her away from her sister who needs her so. Her sister has been having falls lately and I would HATE for anything to happen to her sister while she would be taking me out to shop. SO I keep putting it off, hoping this rain will stop, but it does not look like it will any time soon, sigh....