Gynae Appointment

[lilstar]

Thanks nicolette, i'll give it a try :-)

Thanks nyx

 

[WonderingWhy]

I would love to hear any suggestions also on working up to exams. It has been so long since I have had a Gyn exam I couldn't tell you. I guess it was during my pregnancy! That was about 17 years! :(
My concern is not that. I can't even begin to consider that!!!:eek:

I have trouble having ANY exam. I do have a female Dr. and she knows I have past trauma. I find it hard if she touches me. They don't even take my blood pressure because IF I make it in it is a given it will be sky high. I monitor it at home and let her know.

I have asthma and she usually has to listen to my lungs. That is very hard. If anyone has any suggestions please speak up. Thank You

 

[Nyx]

In my opinion, the first thing you need to ask yourself is: why do you have such a hard time with your doctor touching you? Is it about special parts of the body or any part? Is it the touching in itself? What do you feel/think that makes you get scared?

 

[WonderingWhy]

It's pretty much any part. More so if it's my bare skin. She is very patient with me too. She tells me before she does anything and I still jump halfway off the chair. I am not sure why. It could just be my hypervigilant state from being out. It is real hard to get there. She doesn't really even "book" appointments for me. When I need to see her. I call to let them know and get times she will be there. They do it that way so I can come when I think I feel like I can get there. If I made an appointment I would stress and not make it. Been there done that!:eek: It saves her from wasting appointments and is the only way I can make it. Sounds crazy huh? But then sometimes I think I am!:rolleyes: lol

 

[Nyx]

It's not crazy, it's just issues that need to be worked on. It's really nice that your doctor is soinvolved and understanding, hold on to her. And when you heal, tell her that she was a part that helped you heal. She deserves to know that.
But getting back to the point you're at... Do you hug your daughter? Do you allow her to hug you?

 

[WonderingWhy]

Yes I do. As a matter of fact my immediate family and long time close friends I have NO problem what so ever with. I have to say I cherish dearly each warm embrace from them. That's one of the best feelings in my world.

The only time it bothers me is if I don't know they are about to. That shakes me up a bit, but it is gone quickly in just a few minutes. Then they can hug me all they want.

 

[Nyx]

I don't know for sure, but this issue seems the kind that would go away through exposure therapy. Anthony, some advice? :)

 

[WonderingWhy]

Exposure!!!!!! :eek: NO!!!!!!!

 

[lilstar]

I seem to dissociate when I go.

 

[WonderingWhy]

That might help me! lol I wonder if I could will that to happen? :cool:

 

[Nyx]

I know it's scary just thinking of it. But I think it's also the most effective if done correctly. Because it's teaching by doing instead of teaching by theory. We all learn better by doing and so do our brains. If you show your brain that it's ok to do something and nothing bad happens while doing it, it will eventually lose the instinct to dictate you to run. I don't quite know how to explain it, but I think you know what I mean. Just think about it for a while. You don't need to do it right now. Think, that's all.

 

[WonderingWhy]

I do know you are probably right, but right now it is too overwhelming to even think about. I will make it a future goal.