Handling "inner Child"- Advice Please?

[KAT]

I do the same as rentanaardvark. My IC lets me know what to work on in counseling.

 

[Mercy]

Does that work well for you. I have always felt invaded when the T asks to speak with a different part of me and when he/she is following some kind of generic rourtine.

 

[Wrknprgrss]

It was threatening when T wanted to talk to little me at first, but I helped T remind my IC that we can trust her and that she won't hurt us. Over time, relatively short time really, my IC has come to trust T quite a bit and sometimes T talking to IC calms me down and makes me feel safe when we are doing memory work. I think if you can get your different parts to trust your T, then it will help your healing process a lot ... just an opinion though

 

[Mercy]

That's a really good opinion and it is so logical. It seems like everything comes down to trust. We've all had our innate ability to trust torn away from us over and over.

 

[Wrknprgrss]

...trust is hard ... so many levels!

 

[Mercy]

:faint:YUP

 

[Wrknprgrss]

a little frustrated today, but trying not to be. had a really good week IC wise ... but IC is STILL super stressed/scared about seeing T. tomorrow ... seems like that part should be getting easier somehow :confused:

 

[Mercy]

This perfectly normal for your IC. Remember she was the first part of you to have her trust torn away. It might help to let her understand you know that she is scared. And you know that being wary of someone she doesn't know well is normal. You could tell her that she can go at her own speed and let her know that trust can be slowly build up again.

 

[pi314159]

I'm not sure if my psychiatrist will work with my IC. I've been going to him for 4 months and he's never mentioned the term inner child. Although we did have an argument a few sessions ago where I thought he was lying to me, I got upset and he said when he looks at me he just sees a sad little girl - maybe the sad little girl is my inner child?

 

[Lucycat]

I have done more reading and research about the IC. My T has never brought it up as a concept either, but I can see that is how he has been working.

 

[Mercy]

I'm not sure if my psychiatrist will work with my IC. I've been going to him for 4 months and he's never mentioned the term inner child. Although we did have an argument a few sessions ago where I thought he was lying to me, I got upset and he said when he looks at me he just sees a sad little girl - maybe the sad little girl is my inner child?

That is very possible as well as logical and is a hopeful way of relating to her. Do you like to be silly sometimes.:funnyfaces: There are many things little girls like from wading in fountains :whistle:and climbing trees to making paper hats from newspaper. Maybe get an origami set with instructions for each thing with Japanese themed papers.

I started a mobile of cranes and got to 27 . I've got some catching up to do!!! We've been married for 40 yrs this year

 

[Ice_Fire]

I don't really 'get' the concept of an inner child. But my T thinks it's perfectly normal! Maybe it's because she counsels children anyway, but I find her office really cosy because there's loads of 'kids stuff', like paintings, a little sand pit, colourful cushions. She thinks I get 'lost' occasionally, sometimes I talk to her really childishly, using simple language, but we haven't actually had a session on it as such, too much other stuff gets in the way.

She said I need to listen to the 'little me', but I don't know who she is. Erm...I feel incredibly embarrassed to say this, but, when I'm stressed, I suck my thumb still. :oops: Been doing it quite a lot lately. Is that my inner child? Scared and needing comfort? It's all very odd to me.