Poll Have You Had Extreme/Over Reactions?

[jeapea]

Sorry.. forgot something.

I sometimes (not in front of the general public) have what I call a 'kid fit'. I rage and yell and cuss and have kicked and punched things. Not people or animals. Inanimate objects. (I can split firewood like you wouldn't believe when I'm pissed off!) All my life it seems I've had a horrible temper at times, but I take it and put that energy to good use somewhere. Not destructive uses. When I was younger I used to run it off. Earned a lot of blue ribbons in track that way...

When my ex grabbed me by my clothes from behind, I did turn on him and threw my drink of (whatever it was) in his face. But, when anyone grabs at me, I do that. It's just as subconscious as ducking my head when anyone raises a hand around my face. People (family) have picked my 'reactions' apart and critisized me for them for as long as I can remember. So I do try to take responsibility for them, but when can I just not have to feel bad for whatever reaction I have?
I feel like I've done my best to keep a grip and not actually try to hurt anyone. Even when I felt like they deserved it.

 

[Marie E.]

I just can't take it most of the time. I have trouble recognizing the past from the present when I am very irritated. I over react a lot to people only to figure out later that it didn't make sense how I treated them. So, I go back to the drawing board and work on myself and of course apologize to the person.

 

[jo may]

I hate being kept waiting, I also hate it when my husband sings to me. I use to be a really calm and relaxed person but now not so much. I lose my temper often and I take it personally if my husband is being annoying. He probably isn't but I think he is.

 

[Anna]

I have had to learn to control my emotions very very well. My anger was a rage which nearly killed two people close to me who I loved. After the second incident I took it into my own hands to control my anger. Meditation and eastern methods helped me to calm down. Extreme physical excercise as well to get out all that negative anger.

I would over react to nearly everything at one point. I am glad I have overcome this. No longer a "psychob****" :P

 

[AngelaMarie]

I have over-reacted and I have learned that there are two main reasons. One for me is hurt that brings up my past, especially with my family. The second is real fear. I can get very hostile toward someone that I feel is threatening me. Thank goodness it doesn't come out towards my children.

 

[CaringMomma]

Over-reaction is my middle name!!!...and when it happens I cry, alot! When I get angry, I cry. My biggest trigger for over-reaction is when I talk to my mom. We have an extremely difficult relationship. She chooses to wallow in the mire and tuck everything under the rug, but I want out and I want answers and I want freedom. I'm just touching the tip of the ice berg as far as healing goes and my mom is completely unaware of my diagnosis.

 

[Lucille]

The way my family puts it... I can go from zero to B*TCH in 2 seconds. But what they don't realize is that they made me that way by refusing to listen to me unless I made a scene... Unless I embarrassed them or made them confront the issues.

 

[Orsino]

I feel my reactions have gotten a lot worse lately than they were before. I feel horrible for it because its not even me it mainly affects its my other half. Its led to me becoming fairly possessive of her around other males although I'm trying my hardest to repress it and keep it controlled. If i've found out shes maybe had contact with one that i dont trust or that she hasn't told me about something I get really quite upset about it without meaning to, then im just too stubborn to back down and apologize. I jump to the wrong conclusions, the minute i find out shes had contact it automatically means I've been cheated on or shes intentionally out to hurt me even though deep down I know shes not at all. Though I have been cheated on several times in the past so I feel this may be a factor and I don't want to blame it on my PTSD but i feel it does have an impact to some extent although its not the cause.

 

[Lionheart]

I used to over-react just about all of the time..... not so much nowadays but certainly several years ago, I was very "reactive"!!! It's sad actually, that there was a time my family had to walk on egg shells around me, but I am happy that's a thing of the past.

 

[Meadowsweet]

Yes, I have extreme over-reactions in comparison to a 'normal' reaction. And I have extreme over-reactions in comparison to a 'normal' perception of reality. But I have quite normal reactions to an extreme sense of reality. If that makes sense. And the sad thing is, in realising this, Ive broken friendships with people I would have liked support from. But I was unable to explain my feelings in a way that they could understand. I get quite upset about it - I can't tell people how I feel when I most need to, because I'm anxious and talking fear. In my reality, someone might attack any minute from the slightest provocation, and my reaction is from a strong sense of survival. In their reality everything is normal, and its me thats wrong. What upsets me, is that people either dont ask, believe, or have the patience to listen for long enough to get to the bottom of what I am reacting to. It's only an over-reaction when compared to 'normal'.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Before answering, my question was going to be "WHO THE HE'LL ANSWERED NO?!?"

Now I see nobody did. Lol.

 

[Invisible-Guy]

It's funny. At this point I don't know if I avoid other more or if they avoid me more. I know I'm difficult to be around, but I still can't control it yet.