Having A Rough Day

[Becky_From_Canada]

First I came within an inch of being hit by a car while I was running this morning (the idiot ran a red light and was driving way too fast - sounds weird but a very strong sudden gust of wind propelled me out of the way just in time.)

Then I get home from work and find my husband acting in a way that's triggering flashbacks. I know he doesn't intentionally mean to hurt me, but I cannot help thinking that he should make more of an effort NOT to hurt me. He knows that certain things trigger me, because I've told him, but it doesn't stop him from doing them.

Does he forget? Does he not care enough to remember? Who knows?

I'm just feeling very sad and hurt this evening, not to mention all shook up by my near miss this morning.

Becky

 

[piratelady]

What a day. I'm sorry to read that you are having a difficult time. I can relate to having someone trigger you, especially when they know what triggers you. For me, it sort of adds insult to injury. Have you tried talking to him about this and letting him know how much it affects you? As I have gone through my own therapy, I am often reminded about the importance of communication.

 

[cherryblossom]

Wow- close call with that car. I'm not surprised you are feeling shaken up. Do you think you were more susceptible for feeling triggered due to emotions running high? Not that it excuses hubby acting in a way that triggers you.

I think you really need to talk to him again about your triggers, and his behaviours, and what you would like him to do/ not do. A discussion that needs to take place when you are feeling calm, I think.

I also wonder how you react when he does do something that triggers you? Perhaps when you are feeling a bit better, you need to plan what you will say to him in future if he triggers you.