Relationship He’s a vet with PTSD, I gotta let go

[Ingreyeyes]

Congrats on beating cancer btw. You are one strong person.

Thank you

Absolutely.
From what I have learnt from supporters here, is that it's important to make the mindset shift from "rejection" to "I know it's not personal". Otherwise the relationship becomes very unsustainable very fast.

You might find these threads particularly useful:
General - What are they thinking?
General - Rant and complain thread open to all supporters

As well as having a look around the Supporter Discussion area, if you haven't already :)

Thank you I will check those out for sure

 

[EveHarrington]

The walls tend to go higher the more you try to break them down.

Have you tried just accepting him as he is, including accepting what he can give, when he can give it?

 

[Jamie88]

Met “Joe” on online dating. He explained his PTSD shortly after we met. I remember crying on my way home, his pain, his fear, he’s divorce (she’s a vet w/ptsd) he’s alone, but I like him.
I’ve tried like hell to get through his walls. I’ve read books, articles and even forums on Combst PTSD-
So it’s been 7 months... he has said I’m pushy. I do tend to be motherly. I’ve had cancer and suffer from anxiety myself. I want to fix everything!
I feel if someone wants to see you or be in a relationship they will do things-text, call, just the things I’ve had in other relationships. He’s distant at times he wants to talk other times who knows if he’d ever talk to me.. . I truly care for him and I told him. I think that was a mistake. It’s all a mess and we haven’t talked in days. It kills me that I may never see him. I don’t know what else I can do but let him go

I’m going through the exact same thing you are going through