Relationship He Asked How I Felt, I Told Him And Now He Wants A Divorce.

[Lemmingnot]

I would like to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts and offering advice. Through your words, I have found the inner strength to stand up for myself.

When my husband told me that he thought I should express my feelings more, i did. I told him that I believed that I was codependent and suffering from a bit of low sell esteem. I told him that he scared me when he started breaking things and telling me how much he hated me and that he wished I was a man for just 15 minutes so he could punch me.

He says the only solution is divorce. Part of me says, hey, what about counseling? Am I not worth it? And I realize that that is codependent talk. Maybe he is right. Maybe me feeling unsafe is a deal breaker for him. Who knows what will happen-it's not everyday that I express my feelings aloud.

But I am very proud for standing up for myself. Regardless of the relationship consequences, I put myself first. Thank you for everyone who is a part of this site for giving me the courage to be me.

 

[Nicolette]

Lemmingnot I liked your post for:

But I am very proud for standing up for myself. Regardless of the relationship consequences, I put myself first. Thank you for everyone who is a part of this site for giving me the courage to be me.

Well done for you!!

 

[Taven Carlsen]

Acting crazy is bad - not accepting responsibility is worse - reacting against his accuser when he's in the wrong is worst. I can't advise whether your marriage is worth it or not but your husband sounds like a child.

 

[Tinyflame]

Feeling unsafe would be a deal breaker for me, if he's throwing things/ angry, it's you that is likely to feel unsafe, he feels rage.

I hope he will come around, give your words a chance to sink in.
(((((Hugs))))

 

[Sunshine71]

Well done Lemmingnot.

Sending you love and hugs to be strong and I really hope that you can move forward.

Despite my hubbys PTSD and the nightmare we find ourselves in I do not feel that he would be physically aggressive - This is a deal breaker and something that no one deserves....

It may not be easy - however continue to put yourself first...

Let us know how it goes for you.
Much love, Sunshine x

 

[Lemmingnot]

Acting crazy is bad - not accepting responsibility is worse - reacting against his accuser when he's in the wrong is worst. I can't advise whether your marriage is worth it or not but your husband sounds like a child.

Sure he sounds like a child. When he feels attacked, he reverts back to the situations in which he experienced his traumas. I'm not making excuses for that, or his oversensitivity in the first place. I imagine all sufferers are different. I'm looking to change me, or at least figure out why I put up with this.