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[Charmedone]

Hello and welcome.

 

[Shellbell]

Hi Jaret,

There is a lot of great information on this forum. I'm sorry you can't afford to get assessed or have counselling for the abuse you have suffered. The information on here may help you find ways to deal with it better and the undertsanding and support you need.

I had abuse from my parents too - it's very hard to deal with. And I felt very alone for a long time as well. So I can understand how you feel. I also have grief for never having a caring mother and father.

I really hope finding this forum will help you.

Shelbell

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Hi Jaret. Welcome to the forum!

There is a TON of information here on PTSD, and the people here are quite supportive. I'm glad your friend introduced you to us!

You may not be able to get a diagnosis, but that doesn't stop you from reading and learning about skills that will help you deal with your symptoms. Nobody here can say for sure if you have PTSD, but you can still get support here. I encourage you to venture into the other PTSD forums and read about the various issues that others are dealing with.

Glad you're here!

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi Jaret, Welcome to the Forum.

Have you seen the articles on the home page? I highly recommend the [DLMURL="https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/the-ptsd-cup-explanation.13737/"]The Ptsd Cup Explanation[/DLMURL] which
explains cause and affect of how our minds function. I wish you well on your journey. Whitney

 

[Philippa]

Thanks guys, for making him feeling welcome. Jaret is a very gentle, loving person and I'm sure he'll fit right in here.

 

[Tanishq]

Thank you so much everyone for welcome. It makes me feel good and supportive. :)

 

[Tanishq]

I have lots of problems:

Lots of anxiety and stress. I am anxious about my career, social life.

I do get bad dreams, thankfully they are now stopped. But they used to make me feel very down.

I do remember bad memories in flashback ways. It revives all the pain.

I have hard time getting over negligence. I was neglected many times when I was kid, those days I did not feel bad. But as I entered in teenage years, it started getting to my head and I used to feel very bad.

My mood does swing instantly. I feel good for couple of hours, then I would be stressed and will feeling down. I used to be determined person, but now that has gone. I don't feel peace anymore. I have been wandering for that from last two years.

Right now I want to ask that which forum would be right to create thread??? If I want to discuss about educational stress. My college has started from 3rd August. but I have gone there only two days.

 

[KP the nut]

Right now I want to ask that which forum would be right to create thread??? If I want to discuss about educational stress. My college has started from 3rd August. but I have gone there only two days.

There is a forum for Education and Employment on the forums page.
[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/forums/employment-education.23/[/DLMURL]

Please ask specific forum questions at the help desk. Also take a look at each Forum to identify which is best for your post/thread.

 

[Tanishq]

Thank you KP the nut.

P.S: I have taken care of that notification and i will keep in mind what you have advised me. Thank you again. :)

 

[Heidi07]

Hello and welcome Jaret,

I can relate to what you have written. I was emotionally and physically abused by my mom. She was very controlling and up to 3 years ago (that's when I stopped the contact with her), she still tried to control what I do. You have taken a good step by signing up on this forum. Check the links out that the others have posted for you. It gives you more information about PTSD. Of course, nobody can give you a diagnosis on here but you can read more about it. You will find a lot of support on here and I know that is sometimes all it takes to feel a bit better about ourselves. :)

 

[Tanishq]

Hi Heidi,

Thank you for welcoming me. :)

Yes my mom abused me verbally because she knew I am sensitive male. She always told me she is busy. Especially when I asked her to have some conversation with her. She was never there when I needed a mother to have emotional and physical support. I think till today normal conversation between us would have lasted for maximum 5 minutes. Mostly we have verbal fight where she is putting up excuses and lying.

 

[RedBalloon]

Hi Jaret,

I may not know you, but I'm extremely proud of you for seeking out help and support. I am proud of you for being able to go against the grain of your culture and reach out. I am proud of you for fighting against the anxieties and striving for higher education.

I'm from America where most of us understand the need for psychological help these days, but it wasn't always like that. Many older people would feel a deep shame about these things & never sought help. It just perpetuated cycles of abuse and other bad patterns. My mother was badly abused and raised children. We all suffered because she refused to seek help.

To be neglected and abused for any amount of time will leave its traumas, but yours was a long road. It's hard to come out "clean" without any problems after that. I wish you the very best along your healing journey!